Is it normal to be so considerably affected by "likes" in social media

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I enjoy taking "selfies" and uploading the best of them to my Facebook and Instagram pages. However, I am fiercely realistic with myself and therefore I don't really take/upload an obscene amount of these selfies, so its not like I'm overexposed or constantly popping up on people's news-feeds. I'm not (exceptionally) vain and nor am I ugly, in fact, I'm really photogenic. And as I said, I'm kinda harsh with myself, so therefore I only upload pics that I feel/see to be pretty. But I have noticed lately that when my selfies don't get as many "Likes" as my other friends' do, I quite literally become seriously despondent and saddened; sometimes for most the day. I feel as if these "Likes" dictate things like whether or not other people find me attractive, or whether or not other people (friends too) even actually like me! I know what others' think shouldn't matter to my sense of self worth (and it usually doesn't) but for some reason my own personal validation is not enough in this instance. Is It Normal to feel like you can't be your own cheerleader all the time, at some point and with regards to certain topics, the general consensus of others is what is valid and seen to be true?

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Not normal and not healthy. You need to stop being so wrapped up in getting validation and go do something more productive with your life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      You're quite right. Easier said than done, but not impossible... Thank you :)

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  • LizardSkin
    9 years ago

    If being popular on social media is normal I'm glad to be abnormal.

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  • SweetSociopath
    9 years ago

    You're normal, but definitely are too hard on yourself.

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    • howaminotmyself
      9 years ago

      That's normal!?

      Holy hell I don't want to live in that world. I'll just stay in my bubble thank you.

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      • SweetSociopath
        9 years ago

        It's extremely normal in this day and age. Is it healthy? No way! Unfortunately it is the norm to have low self esteem. So I'd say no not normal in the mental health sense, but normal in the society sense.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Thank u for ur comments ;)

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        • howaminotmyself
          9 years ago

          Normal is relative. I dont know people who do this. So I guess im weird for having friends with a positive self image and the ability to control their posting habits. Who knew?

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