Is it normal to be so concerned/worries that i dont have a gf??

i am 18 self conscious male and i am 6'2 and weigh 175lbs. i think i am too skinny to get any girls. i am trying to get to between 190lbs-200lbs. In addition i am proper pale as well combined with blonde hair blue eyes. I know i am not attractive so i have to work on other areas.

i am super shy as well its so hard for me to get girls. all of my friends have gfs apart from me, it makes me feel so lonely and really bothers me. i just feel so unwanted in life.

can anyone else relate or am i just over-reacting and sounding stupid??? thanks.

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  • XxMisguided_AngelxX

    I feel the same way.
    The only difference is that I am a 19 year old girl.
    I don't think being skinny is a problem.
    Maybe it's because you're shy, be more forward & go after a girl you like. I am sure you will get her! ^_^

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  • bethhunt188

    Girls like confidence. Confidence is the most attractive quality in a guy. I have a friend who sounds kinda like you. He's awesome when he's talking to me, but any other girl I've seen him talk to... I just wanna smack him and tell him to stop being so nervous and jittery. It's not your looks.

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  • BluntsRolled

    You think your skinny at 175lbs?

    Bro, I weigh about 40lbs LESS then that, and I'm 22.
    That's not your problem, the only way your gonna get girls is by trial and error. Putting yourself out there and EXPECTING rejection. Its not like you hit some magical number on a scale and chick are just gonna hop in your lap without effort.

    Not everybody is a natural lady killer, some, if not most of us, have to figure out the game slowly, by meeting women, and learning how to talk to them as well as finding ones that will like us back.

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  • Im 145 lbs lol i can get dates. Have you ever tried going up to a girl, saying hi, and asking for her number? If you never have then its probaby not your looks, its your confidence. Lol its actually pretty easy. I used to be scared to talk to girls also. I thought i wasnt attractive, then i saw this ugly ass dude go up to a girl that i liked and get her number. I was so pissed lolzz.

    Its not going to be easy, you will fail a couple of times, feel embarassed, and never want to see a girl again. But after that one girl says "sure heres my number!" IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE! ... Or not lolzz

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  • Mark3L

    i know how you feel man. cause i have been single for some time now. and im 17, black, green eyes, over 300 pound, i think im cute. but its just that some girls would just like for there guys to be skinny and muscular. im heavey. but sexy. but girls are just too weird. and im a great guy.
    Go look at my picture on my page.

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  • VioletTrees

    That doesn't sound too skinny to me. My fiancé weighs about that much, and he's 6'6. It depends on how you're built, though. Different women are attracted to a pretty wide variety of body types, so I wouldn't worry too much.

    I can definitely relate to feeling unattractive and unwanted, and to being unhappy with your body. I grew up thinking my thighs were huge, and even though I'm engaged, I still kind of hate them. I could name a hundred things I don't like about my body.

    In the end, though, remember that you're your harshest critic. If you can get up the nerve to talk to some girls, some will turn you down, and some won't. I promise there are women who are attracted to pale, skinny guys (I'm one of those women). The most important step you can take towards getting a girlfriend is asking girls out.

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  • dom180

    I'm skinnier than you, and also pale, and also very shy. Believe me, you're not hopeless.

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  • Anime7

    I've read a lot of stories with people like you: tall, pale, and blonde. In every story there are usually several replies by girls who find those features attractive. Honestly, you're not ugly, you just have to work on making yourself realize that.

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  • bananaface

    I don't think that's too skinny to get dates, and I personally like pale skin. Working on your confidence is probably the best thing to do:)

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