Is it normal to be so bothered that my gf smokes pot?

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My gf and I are in our early 20's. We haven't been dating for very long, but we get along great and I am very fond of her. The only problem is that it really bothers me that she smokes pot. Also, I seem to have some sort of bias against people who smoke weed in general, though I'm not sure why exactly, but probably because it has such a bad stigma. I lump all people who smoke it in with stoners whom I associate with laziness and stupidity. She never does it around me so I usually don't have to think about the fact she does it at all, but when I do think about it I just feel sort of sad/bothered by it. Is this normal?

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    heres my two cents. youll get over it soon enough. believe me. this is coming from a straight edge guy. i used to be the same way and do eveything i could to avoid said stoners, but they arent hurting anyone and it really isnt harmfull to her either. eventualy you should learn to accept the fact that there are people lile that and that you can associate with them. at the same time, this does show that you care for her. i hope your guys relationship continues on and doesnt get affected hy her habit.

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  • Dizzee
    12 years ago

    I don't like it when people smoke either, so I can see why it bothers you. I wouldn't say all stoners are lazy and stupid, but the ones that I've met so far in real life have been.

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  • Aurora93
    12 years ago

    Of course it's normal! She's your girlfriend so you must care about her and it's bad for her health.

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    • LightningTechnician
      12 years ago

      Pot is bad for your health? Oh my god, it's totally true, it can cause cancer!

      Oh wait, cigarettes do way more damage than weed does.

      You fail miserably.

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      • superaspie
        12 years ago

        Yeah and so does the chemicals in the air... And processed food... The government is poisoning autistics, and who knows what the other side effects of the poisons are... Smoke pot or whatever... Just make sure you know the dealer... They might be poisoning that too.

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      • Aurora93
        12 years ago

        I don't care if cigarettes are worse, it's still bad for you.

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        • shade_ilmaendu
          12 years ago

          Show scientists the studies that can prove that and they might just give you a nobel prize. ;P

          All evidence points to it being a treatment for cancer if youve been paying attention.

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          • Aurora93
            12 years ago

            Firstly stop being so rude, and secondly if it's good for you then why is it illegal? Plus it's still an addiction which is bad for you because your body won't be able to take it if you suddenly stop giving it the drug, so what happens if you find you haven't got enough money to get any more? Also, what about it being a gateway drug to more harmful substances which definitely are bad for your health?

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            • shade_ilmaendu
              12 years ago

              Pardon me, I believe I missed the part of the post where I was rude.

              1. Unlike alcohol, MDMA, cocaine and many other drugs, cannabis does not work along the reward pathway of the brain, therefore it is not addictive in the sense that there is a physical dependance. Lacking physical dependance (which occurs in both cigarettes and alcohol, which are legal) one can liken addiction to marijuana to addiction with coffee. How many people in the world need their coffee in the morning? But we dont ship them off to rehab. And in my opinion (being a weed smoker) its a weak individual who becomes addicted to such a mild substance.
              However there are essentially no physical symptoms to quitting smoking weed, its not like pills or heroin where youll be horribly sick and might die. You might might be a little grumpy or a little less hungry for a day or few. :P

              2. Gateway drug theory is nothing more than a logical fallacy. Essentially it would be the same thing as claiming riding a two wheeler is a gateway to joining Hell's Angels, because thats how the Hell's angels got started. (Ill include the article I got that from :3) http://healthland.time.com/2010/10/29/marijuna-as-a-gateway-drug-the-myth-that-will-not-die/

              Hopefully I have managed to answer all your questions thoroughly; I can provide more links, just hard to find the same articles over again sometimes.

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            • shade_ilmaendu
              12 years ago

              Actually, yeah. Heres another good one for yah. Their cannabis FAQ is very informative as well.

              http://www.erowid.org/plants/cannabis/cannabis_myth9.shtml

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          • LeafyGreen69
            12 years ago

            Yeah weeds only been illegal 1% of its lifetime. People think its bad because of what they hear or see in the media.

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  • skullja1
    12 years ago

    It's normal. Not all stoners are lazy but you care about her well being and you might dislike it because of the respect it gets. I think you should try it once with her and you will see its not going to make you stupid. I wish I had a pothead girlfriend.

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  • freakiegirl74
    12 years ago

    My ex...was a heavy weed smoker..he couldnt function with out it..but he worked over 90 hrs a week..so lazy he wasnt.it might not be addicting..but people that smoke daily end up needing something stronger ive seen it happen...but....sex is great when u r high..so i dont think you should let her ydo it wheen u are not close by......good luck....and there are alot of worse drugs out there...you d be surprised how many people smoke weed....people u least expect....

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  • CommunistInDaHouse
    12 years ago

    Tbh, marijuana is only illegal because the government would not be able to control such an industry, unlike alchohol. If it was legal, everyone would trade their bottle of vodka for a brimming bag of weed and what would you know? Government would lose a shit load of money. But anyway, its normal you're worrying and stuff but dw, weed's safer thab alchohol and ciggerettes so just let her do her thing :)

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  • polaris800
    12 years ago

    Dude cannabis won't hurt your health! Sure it is bad for you but not that bad but if you vaporize instead of smoking its harmless! And it takes so little to get you high that it virtually won't hurt you so all you gaggles that think weed is bad screw off it's a plant that god put here for us!

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  • UnrecognizableMan
    12 years ago

    It's normal that it bothers you. It would bother me too. It's understandable to worry that she'll turn into a stereotypical stoner.

    I suggest you tactically discuss your feelings towards it with her. Make sure that you are coming across as a caring boyfriend, and not an insecure control freak.

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  • QuestionMark?
    12 years ago

    If she smokes she pokes (;
    jk yeah it's normal. It bothers you cause you care for her, now idk about being bad for her health.

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  • Kollian
    12 years ago

    Of course it's normal. I mean, weed really isn't that bad for you, but it's normal if it still bothers you. It's just your opinion on weed, if you don't like it and it bothers you that much, then talk to her about it.

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  • takethesebrokenwings1
    12 years ago

    I don't like when people smoke weed either but that's cause I watched a lot of people who were close to me ruin their lives with drugs. And to correct someone before weed is worse for you, smoking one joint is like smoking 3-4 cigarettes and they are also not filtered. Yes it does have health benefits but I think people do overuse it. I don't think that all people who smoke weed are lazy and etc., some are very smart and just want to get high.

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  • ariannel
    12 years ago

    Its normal to be bothered by it but I wouldn't make it a dealbreaker unless it becomes out of control. If its just recreational, let her have her fun.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    A drugs counseillor I know says that those who smoke weed get so chilled out that they lack motivation to do things - maybe that's why they are seen as lazy. Maybe if you two are active together she won't need to smoke it.

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  • admirer
    12 years ago

    If she smokes daily, that could be a problem in the long run in the brain & lung health department. If it's a couple times a week or less by her choice, you might consider easing up.
    Over indulgence in anything can be bad but partaking in this or that on an occasional basis is usually ok. This is often true when it comes to weed.
    You know, some of the more interesting, intelligent, creative, open minded people I've admired, had the pleasure of meeting & even become close friends with smoke pot. I'm just saying, a person isn't stupid if or because they smoke pot.
    On another note, a person IS exercising ignorance when they "lump all people" together & label them lazy & stupid based on one thing those people enjoy.

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    • LeafyGreen69
      12 years ago

      I agree because weed is bad if you over use it. Like anything else you over use wil be bad.

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  • bleach_baby
    12 years ago

    No? Don't be such a control freak, and don't be so judgemental! Unless you think your girlfriend IS lazy/stupid then why would smoking weed make her so?

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  • polaris800
    12 years ago

    *gaggles* ment faggots but autocorrect changed it

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    No you should learn how to mind yOur own damn business. (Ps:what a sad bunch of dorks you are. Get yourselves a fucking life)

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  • MissBops
    12 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with what she is doing . You're the one in the wrong here.

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