Is it normal to be so 'behind' in life?

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I've always been alone, partly by choice but mostly because I'm so awkward and weird around people, I can't socialise in a normal way. I don't get invited to things cos people know I'm like this.

I'm in my early 20s now at university and have no friends here. Never been in a relationship & a virgin but couldn't admit this at my age, I am deeply ashamed of my life. I feel so inept compared to my fellow students who are 4-5 yrs younger than me...it's really embarassing.

On the other hand I like my own company...but the longer I'm alone the more depressed I start to feel. I know I need more in life to be happy.

It's so miserable living like this but having friends/a relationship is not imaginable to me now...what do I do?

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  • Megid
    12 years ago

    Your words remind me of my own.
    For reference, I am currently 21 years old.

    It was only a month ago that my life began to pull itself together in the slightest. I was in my first relationship, hopelessly in love. On top of this, I was offered a decent job for a student. A long sought happiness that words fail to illustrate. I felt reanimated; emotions circulated that were long ago perceived extrinsic. Suddenly, I had a reason to live.

    Only two weeks later, it all came crashing down.
    Let's just say, I should not be here right now.

    Since my middle school years, I have always been the quiet one in the back of the classroom, usually fast asleep. I could never relate with any of my peers. All of them had their own exciting, yet equally unappealing stories to tell each other. I grew up as an observer, but never experienced such things myself. Not one person had even offered. I've been fighting depression practically my entire life. The internet is my sanctuary.

    Keep fighting.
    One day, you will get your break.

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  • scradley88
    12 years ago

    I can't write paragraphs of information, but to be honest, if your in university, nows the time to join a club and get yourself out there, maybe even a social dating site. Try talking online first and maybe it might get yea going dawg.

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  • lease
    12 years ago

    Have you just never had the CHANCE to have a relationship - or do you just not want one?

    I have a good friend that was very dedicated to school. The college he went to was something like 94% male. He had a gf in high school and WANTED to have sex, but he didn't have time to.

    He remained a virgin until he was in his late 20's - and now has a perfectly good sex life.

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    • jase
      12 years ago

      Erm no it's not like that for me. I've never had the chance because I'm so unconfident and clueless, I always mess it up

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    you have to push yourself to walk out of your shell. it's one of those things that no one else can do for you. meds can maybe help take some of the edge and get the door open. but you have to be the one to walk through it. it's not easy but it's possible.

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