Is it normal to be single for a few years?

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As a college student, you would think it'd be a boy frenzy and a good possibility of meeting a good quality guy at your school.
I'm a junior in college and have not been even close to a relationship since high school. I know I'm a picky person and there a numerous unworthy boys that want my attention, but frankly, wolf-whistling and cat calling does not make me interested in you.
I've had interests but it didn't feel right from the beginning and I was interested in a few but found out later that they weren't my type. Basically, I feel hopeless in the "men" in this school/city. And in some cases, I turn the telescope and wonder if it's me? Now, I know what I look like and I know my personality. I don't want to seen as conceited (which I probably will), but I know I'm quite an attractive, smart and adventurous woman. I may be a tad bit on the awkward side but that's just who I am.
I'm going on 3 years of not having a boyfriend nor anything remotely close to an intimate relationship. I'm content in waiting to start a serious relationship, mainly because I'd like to focus on my studies, but I'd least like to go on a date here or there. I know I look intimidating but I'm human too.
I'm a complete hopeless romantic, and sure, I can be shy when it comes to boys, but I guess you could say I'm an old-fashioned gal.
But is it normal to single for more than half of my college life?
Thanks.

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Based on 47 votes (41 yes)
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  • gaelicwolf
    14 years ago

    Are you kidding...? This is not only normal, but gives you an advantage over the stupid, boy-crazed tramps that seem to crawl all over my college campus.
    You're free to improve yourself, move forward in you education and career, and make a place for yourself in the world without having to worry about what HE will think, or what HE wants.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Good answer.

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  • Nakkiel
    13 years ago

    Either lower your expectations or don't expect to be dating.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    are you ugly

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Trusting your own judgement is important. Definitely. Is it possible to go to events (dances, socials, clubs ...) where you can circulate a bit more?

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  • random_man
    14 years ago

    I'm kind of in the same boat, 21 years old in college, haven't had a serious g/f since high school. and its the same setting: it's not like there aren't girls around that I've been attracted to, it just never really amounted to anything. I thought the same thing as you going into university, that there'd be a lot of people of like-mind; my parents practically preached that I'd find the person i'm going to marry in school... I've gone out on a couple pretty awkward dates with people I've met at school but I'm not exactly writing wedding vows right now haha

    Does 2 people with the same problem make things normal? I'll give it the benefit of the doubt:)I'm sorry this wasn't really advice but at least you're not alone?

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