Is it normal to be selfish?

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Is it normal to be selfish?

Once in my work life, i was told by a colleague that i wasn't being given enough respect because i was too selfish. I didn't know what he meant, i was the hardest working person in the group. i came in the very earliest to get everything set up to impress and it worked. i stopped ONE day and people acted as if i was trying to act pissy...

I caught myself at another occupation being selfish. only this time i was intentionally trying to field ALL of the work to get the attention of my teammates that I'm hauling ass and could maybe use a little friendly "competition" but no, instead i just become the mother bear picking up the rest and "waking up the earliest" and "going to bed the latest". Of course, yet again i am under acknowledged only this time I'm not selfish i am, untrustworthy of responsibility because of my temper (fueled by over exhaustion and unrequited success).

Am i selfish, and then am EYE normal? I love working with other people, honestly. I just maybe do too good of a job sometimes, haters be hating? WTF is it?!

But we are all selfish aren't we? From the homeless man looking to score some change, to the investor on wall st we are all looking out for number one. Why am i the one at the losing end? Im the ultimate team player, i don't care for the "points" but I'm just always there in the top 3 or 5. Im always the first one to sacrifice and the last one to leave and yet still, I'm at square one.

All this effort and with no improved result? Am i failing in life because I'm too selfishly ambitious or am i just like everyone else in the race except I'm the slow and steady tortoise?

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  • lmh
    11 years ago

    Everyone is selfish to a degree. Try having your selfishness help others as well. Life isnt a zero sum game. And if ppl dont notice after you very graciously and tactfully point it out then you could just be having a rough patch...

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  • lilrebel80
    11 years ago

    everyone is selfish at times

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    Maybe they are jealous or envious of your work ethic.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Or maybe i just don't want to be normal. Actually i think i realize just now that being normal is something i can do but hate, because they are times when i am either most happiest, like sharing a really really good joke or most embarrassed like flipping out on a newb at work for incompetence (like I'm one to judge...)

      Thank you, for your comment. I appreciate it a lot.

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      • Shackleford96
        11 years ago

        Yeah, you might be right. You certainly shouldn't allow yourself to become arrogant at the thought of them being jealous/envious of you. After all, there's a chance that that just simply isn't the case.

        You are welcome too.

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    • ucipher8
      11 years ago

      I can't allow myself to believe that though, can i? I mean, it would be alsmot selfish if i did, as opposed to if they actually told me they were jealous (and of course, no one ever did)

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