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Everything about sex scares me. Just thinking about gets me uneasy. Its not even like a feel Im not ready, Im just plain scared. Is this normal?
im just scared tht if i do get married & do it, it'll lead to a bunch of snotty kids.
yes! especially for a virgin. if you are scared don't do it untill you feel you are ready. if you are a girl don't screw just any prick out there either. i am a guy and men only want one thing and that is sex. so if you are scared it is your body's way of saying be careful! good luck and remember no one but you controls what you do
you could end up taking care of a baby and left to take care of baby and be poor guys dont care about your feeling they just want a one night of pleasure dont trust all guys
I'm trying to be different then other guys, i want to be nice, respecting, loving guy, I will treat women with great manner and wish to please them with all I can do. And when I watch shows where women get raped or movies dont matter the age, I freak out and think about killing the rapist. No women should be treated like that! I really wish the best for all women, I will be better to women better than any other guy. That's what I will do, I swear.
the other thing i thought afterwards... yeah, sex isnt all its cracked up to be. nice, but not necessarily mind blowing.
i have no idea if this relates but... i'm a guy. i didn't have sex til 20 and one reason was i was terrified of that or even making out with a girl... because i didnt know what to do! well, i knew technically what to do but the whole process between talking to someone to sex was an enigma to me and i was afraid of embarrassment and shaming myself somehow.
anyways, after the first time that pretty much disappeared... i understood how it worked, and really it was just going with the flow. awkward moments happened, but they aren't even a big deal as i realised.
as i remember my friends were pretty nervous about sex til they did it also.
Your post is way too vague to say. Is it the intimacy? Relationship? The act? Fear of an unwanted pregnancy, or STD? There are things to fear in any of these & other dimensions.
To identify & deal with what your fears are about seek health education & counsel.
Fear can be a real good thing, not so much as an indicator of readiness, but to be more knowledgeable and to make good choices.
Good on you.