Is it normal to be scared of love

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when i was a little girl. i was allowed to watch scary movies but my mom would freak out over a kiss. i wasnt allowed to watch romantic shows and i was told to close mt eyes if their was a small kissing scene but my mom would allow me to watch gut spilling brains and stuff like that when i was younger. she used to tell me that boys are bad and they all will break your heart. she said the reason why she doesnt allow my sister to date when she was a teenager because she doesnt want her to get hurt. I was taught at a young age and still to this day affection and love is wrong.

now that im a teenager im scared of love. i hate being touched by guys, it makes me feel awkward and i hate it. if i guy says he likes me i get freaked out and push him away. even when i have a crush i only like talking to them. once they wanna see me regularly, i feel weird and it feels wrong. i feel like im the only one who should ever have control of my emotions so i push them away because once i dont have control of my emotions anymore its to me like im naked in a public place. i think the idea of love is beautiful but once i get it i think its not natural. even now when i watch kissing in movies i feel awkward and find myself looking away but then ppl look at me werid so i look back at the screen while my insides are freaking out. The only time i kissed a guy is when im drunk and i only did it 3 times and im 17. when guys try to get to know me i kinda feel like im being used. like they should admire me from afar if they like me because thats what i do. I feel like love complicates things and it never lasts anyways. I think men are the enemy. i cant help feel that way even when i see people that been together for a long time in my head i think hes using her for sex or they would break up but things would be to complicated cuz maybe he pays the bills and she doesnt work because thats why my moms with her boyfriend.

it bothers me so much that im scared to fall in love or even to like or be touched by a guy becuase when i like a guy i have to push him away and it kills me but its like i have to. its like i want him but i dont wanna date or touch him but i dont want him to date or touch anyone either. is it normal to feel like this?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I'm afraid of love and commitment

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes love can destroy you it is a very high risk emotion if done wrong you become a shell of your former self.

    If done right though it truly is an amazing feeling and well worth the risk.

    Proceed with caution.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    I don't know how old you are but I think therapy could really help you with this issue and your mom sounds like a really toxic woman to me. I would suggest that you take anything she says to you about love, sex and relationships with a big chunk of salt!

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  • Love2Teach
    11 years ago

    I don't feel like these are "normal" feelings you are having per say. However, I think for the environment you were raised in its normal. Your brain has been hardwired to think that romantic love is "bad".

    Have you ever considered therapy for this? I think it could really help. I don't want you to miss out on finding your match - its an amazing feeling. :)

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  • Johnnytherat
    11 years ago

    well bad relationships can completely rape the soul.. ive seen it happen many times monogamy is a government conspiracy to keep the population low

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  • Polan
    11 years ago

    Yes love is unnatural when someone jump to kissing and sex too fast.Many boys just want sex without responsibility.Maybe your parent is sex-after-marriage type and there's good reason for that.It's good for you to be cautious about love.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      My moms deffently not sex before marriage. She was 15 when she had my oldest sister and she cheated on my dad and the bf she has now

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