Is it normal to be scared of letting someone into your life?

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OK. i am 20 years old, and a sophomore in college. I am a virgin and have never been kissed, except when i was 6 years old playing a game, but that doesn't count. deep down i want someone to love and to hold. but when i think about it, i get a weird feeling in my stomach. i grew up in a single family home, and never really got used to seeing people be romantic. i actually still get uncomfortable. i will watch these movies, and cover my eyes when i see people in awkward positions. then there is the fear of the way my family will react if i ever do get in a relationship. we are such a close family, that i don't know if they will look at me the same or not, partly because i have never been in a relationship. the attention and the playful teasing i would get really scares me. I have been around a few guys who i think like me, but i have been so uptight, nothing has ever happened. part of me is relieved, the other part of me imagines myself with them forever. I have made the decision to save my virginity until my wedding night, regardless of relationship. i want to know, does anyone else have these kinds of feelings?

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  • Oasis808
    11 years ago

    Once it happens, you won't regret it. Having someone else in your life is the most amazing feeling. Unfortunately it can end. Hate that I have to say it...

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  • ledhead
    13 years ago

    thats the same way i am brotha.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    your scared shy probably atractive but thats not the point i think you familly will be happy for you! ~understander

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  • amazing
    14 years ago

    girl i get u,am 24 and in that same situation the difference is that i was involved in attempted rape.but i told myself that am not gonna let that hold me back am gonna try dating again so should you.just date and give in to sex when u not ready.
    if a guy doesnt get that then leave him and find someone else

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  • miranda3
    14 years ago

    i do.im only 15 though but the thought of someone being that close to me scares me mostly because im scared i wont know what to do..and i hate akward silences and im afraid there will be plenty of those

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    No - but I think I get where you are coming from. You have no experience with boy- girl relationships. You have a very conservative family and point of view. And you are wondering about your next steps.

    Baby steps. Date. Yes actually go out with a boy. Or two. Or three. Or twenty. It is allowed. Have fun for a change. No - you do not need to do anything (virginally) you do not want to.

    But you are a young gal, attractive, and so on. You can date, and call the shots. And, get some experience, which you desperately lack, with the opposite sex. And which you will probably want.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    me too! i just cannot imagine myself to be in a relationship. like it seems weird. like somewhat awkward...

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  • zippay2
    14 years ago

    wow that rough no comments, but i think its normal its probaly and emotional phobia. your brain is scared to be hurt emotionally and i bet you dont want to be rejected. but you need to let people in to get pasted this fear/phobia.

    -those without love know more than anyone that you should appreciate what you got(love)-

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  • vintagebeauty224
    14 years ago

    i think you want someone but are scared of getting the rong one, prctace makes perfect, but also takes time. no body finds mr.right at first glance so dont give up hope, and keep looking. until then goodluck and go for it!

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  • xino00
    14 years ago

    "I have made the decision to save my virginity until my wedding night, "

    good! save it. Don't be like the other trash girls.

    and this is normal.
    But you'll get over the shyness when you fall in love. Not when you think you are attracted to someone or like him.

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