Is it normal to be scared of inviting my family to my wedding?

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My fiance and I are first cousins, and we love each other more then anything, but I'm so scared of inviting our families to the wedding. Its not that the majority of them don't know, its just that only a handful of them are accepting of our relationship. I feel like if I don't invite them, when they find out when were married they'll resent us for not inviting them. And if I do invite them, I'll NEVER hear the end of it from a selected few who have been very vocal about their disgust at us being together in the past when they first hear about us. I love my family and I believe they still love me, but which would be best? I don't want to hurt their feelings, but also its my special day, and I don't want to spend it getting glares or being pulled aside to be told I'm making a huge mistake. I suppose it makes me sort of selfish to not want to deal with their disgust at who I want to be with or even risk the off chance they'll be happy for me. Is it normal to be scared of inviting my family to my wedding?

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  • Kutieadb
    12 years ago

    I don't judge love, and I hope you two have a happy life. Maybe you could tell all your family that you are simply together, but then only invite the ones that except you. Idk, it's a hard thing to figure out...

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    This is a major day in your life and if you do (as I did) you will only invite the friends and family that you want to be with you to celebrate.

    What does it matter if you don't invite some of them?
    Are you looking for them to give you a huge financial gift?
    No?! Well then, stuff them!

    Don't stress yourself over this. Remember that this is about you two - and definitely not about them. My mom is one of nine kids and I didn't invite any of her siblings - my own were lucky to be invited :o)

    Anyhow, you must look back with pleasure so do not bend over backwards to please other people - just who you two want there!!

    If you're old enough to get married you should be old enough to stand up for yourselves!

    Good luck!!

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    Can't you just go to vegas and get married? Who cares about the reaction of your peers and relatives! It is your decision and you shouldn't be doing things to get anyone to respect it. And if they pull any weird shit after you invited them, at the party or whatever, kick them the fuck off. Period.

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      Actually we were thinking of that, but in Nevada its illegal for first cousins to marry...

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  • REvEnGE
    12 years ago

    Tell everyone about the wedding and send invitation to only those who agree with your decision. Don't ruin your wedding day.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Only invite the accepting ones. Who gives a crap about the haters? Just forget them. It's their own fault they didn't get invited.

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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago

    If you invite them they probably won't fuckin come. And jesus christ....there's alot of fish in the sea.

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  • ishitpandas
    12 years ago

    Isn't marring your 1st cousin illegal? And that is kind of nasty. You should be ashamed. I wouldn't fucking come to your wedding if I was your fucking mother either. You are a disgrace

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    • patter
      12 years ago

      You can defecate bears of that size? Wow, you must be a huge asshole.

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      Wow, language. How about you lay off the "F" bombs there...

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    I think it's kind of gross because the reason you guys get along so well could very well be BECAUSE you're related, but just so long as you're happy, I am happy for you

    Is what I would say if I was one of your relatives. It's called getting the fuck over yourself and if you can't do it than tough. It's your life, it's your happiness and just so long as you are doing the right thing and not breaking the law or running a drug smuggling ring or anything like that, then they need to get over themselves and accept that not everyone in the world HAS to be as miserable as them.

    :D Congradulations, by the way!

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      Thank you!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    tell them you're getting married and to whom and ask them if they want to come.

    if they say yes send them an invitation.

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