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Sometimes I get so scared that it's not going to work out that I sabotage the relationship. I'm so scared. Is this normal?
Look into borderline personality disorder. This is a common theme for people with BPD. But I must stress it can happen in people without this disorder as well. sabotaging a relationship is not healthy, and you should know that. It will cause suffering for both of you- and that's not what love is. Please understand I say this with compassion for you. You're not a bad person. But this is not a good behavior to get in the habit of. Have you considered talking to a psychologist about it?
I was like this. Before I started to date my honey, we were friends. Friends who quickly realized we really liked eachother. I was so hesitant I flat out told him that we could not date. I was scared of being hurt, again, like my last relationship. our hearts won that battle, because we were falling for eachother hard, and we just seem to be perfect for eachother. An opportunity i am so glad I didnt pass up!
I too have this issue... From my perspective, ita somewhat normal... But it also depends on the type of relationships you've had in the past.... I've never met my father and all of the guys my mom dated were temporary so I've never really seen a successful relationship.... But at the same time, it affects the relationships I have with my friends and family to the point that I generally push them away from me as well.... It's more of a defense mechanism to do this... And counseling helps a bit at dealing with it...
I'm like this =( I think you kind of learn from your mistakes and you stop assuming every man you're with is a cheating, low-life, self-centered, selfish, chauvinistic prick but I'm yet to test that lol.
I suppose you have to go into a relationship with a positive frame of mind but it's difficult when you have barriers up to prevent you getting hurt.
I'm from an extremely broken family and I have a lot of resentment towards my real father for the way he treated me, I do honestly think a lot of my bitterness and the barriers I constantly put up stem from that
My best friend is JUST like that & needless to say, shes still single. She very desperately wants a relationship, love, future husband...but ruins every chance that comes her way. I suggest you seek some counseling or try to figure out why you feel this way.
no i dont think this is normal. did something bad happen to you when you were a kid or are your parents divorced? you should talk to a professional about this to get over the fear. or would you prefer to be alone?