Is it normal to be scared after a miscarriage....

Your therapist is a f*****g @$$hole and needs her license taken away and then she need to be taken out back and shot. She have no right to try and force you to get a divorce like that not matter what the situation. She shouldn't even try to force you to do anything that life changing. She can suggest it, but never pressure you to do anything like that.

It is normal for you to get sad/scared after having a miscarriage, because it is such a horrible feeling. It is understandable that you were afraid to try again for the fear of it happening again. But it seems that you have come to terms with that, and are willing to try again, so that is good. If you haven't already, find a new therapist, because what you described her suggesting is going WAAAAAY outta line. Good luck with conceiving!

You betcha. Im a guy but i could only imagine what its like to have you chil die inside you. but hang in there and dont listen to your therapist, if you love your husband you love him. get a new therapist

I miscarried twice before my 2nd child too. My first born daughter is deaf. The freakin nurse at the hospital told me to be happy I miscarried bcuz i already had one deaf kid. Anyhow, be strong. I put myself out there again and had my son. No regrets, darling! I am blessed! Hold your head up high. The pain eases in time. You wont ever forget but it gets better. Promise :)

i'm sorry

hi again. thank you so much for the comments. it has helped me so much to know that there is a great chance that the next time we get pregnant, i wont have another miscarriage but i guess its a risk either way. i have been giving little hints here and there to my husband like "when we have kids" to see how he reacts and to see if i am comfortable even just saying that and it feels good so maybe within the next few months we will be trying again. again, thank you so very much for sharing your stories. i know how hard it must have been just thinking about it again and putting it out there to share because it was hard for me to put the post on here and because i didnt know what kind of response i was going to get. thank you for all the well wishes and i wish all of you the best also!! :)

I'm so very sorry for your loss. If you love your husband, work it out with him. Follow your doctors orders. Good luck!

My first pregnancy was a tubal. The baby got so big inside my tube and it burst. I went to the hospital, waited 7 1/2 hours for them to tell me I was pregnant and having a miscarriage and to go home. They told me to go back the next day for an ultrasound. I was sent back to emerg for 5 hours and then I was rushed into emergency surgery. I almost died and they sent me home the previous day!!!! Well, they told me I was twice as likely to have it happen again so I was terrified. But with even though they removed my one tube, I had got pregnant a year later and had a healthy baby boy. I have two boys now, so hang in there- I know it's scary but you can only try. Good luck! P.s. You therapist is a bitch!!!!

I had two miscarriages right after the other before I had my 2nd child and I was really scared when I fell pregnant again after the miscarriages. It's normal to feel like that. I was constantly worried that something was going to happen again but it worked out.
As for the therapist, u should make a complaint. Very unprofessional!
Good luck with everything

When I had my miscarriage, I thought I'd never be able to get pregnant again. When I did I was terrified the whole time that I would lose it. I've had two successful pregnancies since though, so just try again, and follow all your doctors advice to the letter!

hey. thank you for commenting and reassuring me. after the therapist told me to see a lawyer straight away, i didnt go and see her again. it was good to talk to her about the miscarriage but her forcing me to leave my husband did make me feel very uncomfortable. skintight - i was very wishy washy about staying or leaving my husband, i guess maybe that could have been why my therapist made the decision for me. my husband was so good and so very supportive after we lost our baby so i think it was just the depression that made me think that i wanted to leave. my husband did feel the loss but he didnt really talk about it a lot. i think he just wanted to be there for me more than anything. can i have a guys point of view when it comes to miscarriages and how it makes them feel?

I had three miscarriages in a row so I know how difficult it can be dealing with a miscarriage and then finding the strength to try again. Your therapist did not help your situation and was very unprofessional. You need to do what you need/want to do. If that's staying with your hubby and trying again then do it. If it's moving on then do it. Do what's best for you but make sure it is what you really want. Don't be wishy-washy.

That really sucks. I would have sued that woman for telling you to leave your husband though, that's bs. She shouldn't have even pushed you to do that. If you love your husband stay with him. That situation is hard but try again if you really want a kid. Just take all precautions