Is it normal to be sad on mother's day?

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I have 5 wonderful step children that have been in my life for 2 1/2 years now. Their mom and I get along well, and the kids know I am not ever going to be their "mom", but I am always going to be a part of their life. I always wanted to have children of my own but was never blessed with that gift. The 3 youngest children spend every other 2 weeks with us and then with their mom. My husband works 1000 miles away from where we live, in the oilfields of Prudhoe Bay, Alaska. Even though we have them this two weeks, they still get to spend Mother's Day with their mom. I am sad because I love them too, and wish they were my children and I want them to spend the day with me. In school they are making Mother's Day gifts for their mom, and they have asked us if we can help them get a card for their mom. Is it normal for me as a step-mother to be sad about Mother's Day in wishing my step kids were spending it with me? Even just a part of it would be great, an hour even... But no, their mom gets them the whole weekend. Yes, I am "jealous" I suppose, but I don't know if it's normal or how to handle it.

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  • mumbum
    12 years ago

    Wow! Lovely post.. What lucky children! I see the issue though. Can you talk to the
    Mother about this so you can have them for an hour next year? Bittersweet... :)

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  • MrsBailey9
    12 years ago

    I can't have children of my own. I had severe Endometriosis, and last July I had a full hysterectomy. I knew at a young age, that the likelihood of having my own children was slim to none, at best. When I got married, we wanted a child together, and I had surgery to remove the Endometriosis, but within a year it came back so severe that it was attacking my internal organs. I have been depressed all day today, crying off and on. I bought their mom a gift and a card for them to take over there with them. My husband thought I was crazy for doing it, I have no ulterior motives, just thought that if it were the other way around, I would surely appreciate it. I'm trying!

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    it's normal to feel that way, but don't worry. maybe you'll have your own children someday. you sound like you'd be a good mom :)

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  • overweightdoomsayer
    12 years ago

    Yes it is normal.I congratulate you on being such a loving step mom!
    Who knows you might end up having your own child next year.....You deserve it as i feel that you are such a nice person.

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