Is it normal to be really scared to have sex for the first time?

I'm 20 and I'm a lesbian. I've never had sex, but I really really want to, but I'm also terrified to. I'm scared because I don't know what I'm doing so what if I do it wrong? What if she judges me? What if I don't know how to react? What are you supposed to do and say?

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  • PinkHairedFreak

    She started off as a virgin, right? I'm sure she will understand and take it slow. She will show you how to do some things she likes. She will try some things on you, and you'll have to tell her if you like it.

    The first time between any two people regardless of their experience is usually a little more awkward simply because you have to get used to each other first.

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  • poorbaby

    Yes it is normal because we live in a society where we make sex into a much bigger deal than it really is, act like it is some life changing experience, and try to scare kids into not having it.

    Reality is that it is just a fun thing for two adults to share. If you both go in with that attitude, and are open to exploring and trying new things, you should have a good time even if you aren't the world's greatest lover your first time out.

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  • thegypsysailor

    You are not at all unique. Don't you think every girl and boy has those same feelings?
    Relax, go with the flow and everything will work out exactly the way it is supposed to.

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  • NathanScot

    Virgins are troublesome to deal with and i dont have the patience for it either.But i digress...
    I'l tell you what i usualy do then u can tailor it to suit ur plans.
    I take the girl out for a nice romantic dinner,make her laugh,touch her ever so slightly every now and then.After dinner casualy invite her back to my place for a night cap.Take her coat off,put on some good music pour her a glass of wine.During conversation,look at her with intent,and just casualy brush her hair back,or place your hands on her thigh.By now she clearly knows ur intentions and the fact that she's still seating there means she wants to know how 'long' this will continue.Now the trick here is too prolong that moment.Dont give in just yet,After teasing her for a while with the lustful looks and touching make as if your grabbing something behind her and brush ur hands slightly across her breasts in the process,linger ur mouth next to her neck making sure she can feel ur breathing then go ahead and nibble her neck.
    From there things will progress naturaly by themeselves.Dont think about it just do it.

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