Is it normal to be really nervous around men?

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Not sure why,but something about being in a room alone with a man makes me so nervous. I literally had a panic attack (sweating,shaking,rapid heart beat) when I was getting tutored not too long ago. I have never been sexually abused by a man or anything like that,its just something about them that makes me on edge. Its to the point where i dont even date. I want to,but I just dont want to approach anyone or be approached. Worst part is,my family laughs at me and say that I should just date women,but im not even attracted to women lol

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Are you a really petite girl or something?

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    • jinks29
      10 years ago

      not sure what that has to do with the question,but im 5'3...not sure if that classifies as petite

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Thats cute.

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        • jinks29
          10 years ago

          Thanks. lol

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Yeah, that's petite. Not super tiny but petite.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Then you probably have a very nice looking butt.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    10 years ago

    How old are you? I guess you haven't really had... anything with a guy? I guess once you do -as in, a kiss, i'm not even talking about relationships yet- you will start feeling more confident?

    I would tell you not to worry :p you're the girl. it's always gonna be easier for you ^^

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    • jinks29
      10 years ago

      I've made out with one guy and that was like in the 9th grade. so its been a while. and as for full on sex with a guy,Im not sure if im ready for that

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      • yesnomaybeso
        10 years ago

        Yeah see, I had my first real kiss when I was quite young and I didn't have another kiss for like a year, I was so nervous too. I think it's normal to be nervous but you shouldn't be panicking so much if it's a normal guy you don't even like? Does this happen with all men?

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        • jinks29
          10 years ago

          Pretty much,doesnt really matter if i find the guy attractive or not. I was like that with my step dad for a long time too,but after a while it kinda went away,and that took like 5ish years. maybe if I find the right guy and get to know him for a while,i'll get use to him. It might just boil down trust issues or something

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          • yesnomaybeso
            10 years ago

            Yeah sure :) Good luck it's going to be all right :D

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    Try throwing yourself at the next guy you are alone with. Just come on to him hard, full stop.

    Then when you see that there's nothing to be afraid of, you won't be nervous anymore.

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    • jinks29
      10 years ago

      lol Im not throwing myself at some guy.

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      • Sog
        10 years ago

        Well, yeah. That's kind of the point, isn't it? What is it that you're afraid of?

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    • BobbyFord
      10 years ago

      That sounds like a horrible idea. What if the guy gets all rapey?

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      • Sog
        10 years ago

        Why is it assumed that guys are wild animals who can't control themselves?

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        • dom180
          10 years ago

          The key was in the "what if". No assumptions were made.

          In any case the, it's pretty likely that the guy would probably push her away and say "wtf" before continuing with his day. I'm not sure how that's supposed to help the OP at all. And who's to say that what you suggest is what the OP is even afraid of? It sounds to me that it's a much deeper issue if she finds it difficult to talk to guys at all and panics when she's even in the room with one.

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        • Energy
          10 years ago

          Because we are. *blushes hard*

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        • jinks29
          10 years ago

          I dont think its fair to just assume that ALL guys are wild animals who cant control themselves. Im just not sure why I dont trust men,or why I dont like being around them for long periods of time. maybe im just a weirdo lol :P

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      That actually seems somewhat rational since it's like facing your fears head on. Although for some reason I doubt the Op would do that. I'm scared of spiders and I honestly would not want to pick one up, although I would imagine that if I could do that my fear will decrease. And who knows maybe I might actually like spiders. But with the OP, in her case the men are the spiders.

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  • JBN
    10 years ago

    You are shy. So what. Next time go up to the person and strike up a conversation. Get them talking. Don't worry about every detail or feel you must "entertain" them. Once you get over your social fear, you will feel soooo much better and realize how silly you were acting.

    ** Jump In ** You have nothing to lose.

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    • jinks29
      10 years ago

      Yeah,you're probably right. I might just be over thinking everything

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  • elenamish
    10 years ago

    I am not a lesbian, I was married two times and had a couple of relationships in between, but I don't like being around man, it just doesn't feel safe and I haven't been abused sexually, emotionally yes. Men think differently and I kind of don't know what to expect and how to fit in. And as I get older I think that all men have AIDS, which is stupid, but I prefer to be by myself, the safest way to go.

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    • jinks29
      10 years ago

      Theres nothing wrong with being alone. Every person is different. I dont mind being alone either. I kinda actually like it better.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    10 years ago

    That's definitely not normal. In the only time I used to get nervous around men is when I had a really big crush on them back in high school or something but that's gone away.
    You have to realize boys aren't aliens they're people just like girls :P they're also a lot of fun to be around if you can relax.
    If I were you I'd take this fear step-by-step and try to force yourself to be around/talk to men more.
    I think you can overcome this anxiety :)!, and you should because if not youre cutting out 50% of the world ahaha
    Anyway good luck

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    I actually found this adorable

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    • jinks29
      10 years ago

      hmm..never heard that one before lol

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Do you have a nice butt?

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        • 3L337
          10 years ago

          Lolwut?

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          • jinks29
            10 years ago

            lol same thing im thinking

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