Is it normal to be really bothered by a best friend's lack of trust?

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I have this best friend that I share everything with. I trust him with pretty much everything. I know for sure he cares, but it still frustrates me sometimes. He always tries to act macho whenever we hang out, but I can completely see through it. He's not the tough, apathetic person he tries to act like, he really is a nice and caring person. If anything, I think he's afraid it would make him look weak, possibly "gay" in his opinion to let the barriers down and trust me. I think if he did it would make him a better person, but he's incredibly stubborn. We’re both guys, so I think he’s really just afraid of looking “gay” since he’s really homophobic.

It’s really been frustrating me lately. I want him to be able to trust me the same way that I trust him, but I’m not really sure what I can do. I feel like I’m doing something wrong as a friend. Is it normal for his lack of trust to bother me this much?

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    :/ I know how you feel, and unfortunately there's only so much you can do if someone doesn't want to face something; except try to be there if it's not to the point it's making the friendship negative and hope they realize it for themselves. People have to want to change before they'll listen to you, in my experience.

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    If he doesn't feel like opening his heart to you, you can't force him, accept him as he is.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I do accept him for who he is, but seeing how much better of a person he could be gets really annoying when I see him supress it. Maybe if I just drop subtle hints that I see through the act, he'll slowly open up...or he could get spooked and start avoiding me >.<

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  • derker
    12 years ago

    youre a gay fag homo dick fag gayass

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