Is it normal to be pregnant before marriage

I am 19yrs and pregnant and afraid of it to tell my boyfriend. Please help me and don't write anything nasty.

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Based on 251 votes (169 yes)
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  • Nejmie

    In my opinion, you need to tell your boyfriend......he is the father and has a right to know. Your fear will be reduced by sharing it with him or with someone you trust. It's normal to be afraid, alone, and pregnant, but you can get through this with support and love. Good luck and blessings to you.

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  • alv1592

    you need to tell him. it's his child.
    and lots of people get pregnant before they're married, so it's normal.
    good luck to you.

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  • When you get mornin gs ickness he will know. So it doesnt really matter if you tell him or not.

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  • sam94

    Sadly, in our time and age it is normal. You have to tell your boyfriend adn family and though some people may not help and support you in your journey, there's bound to be someone who loves you who will.
    You can decide whether to keep the baby, put her/him up for adoption or choose to have an abortion. But make sure you thing long and hard before you make up your decision. Good luck

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  • blandy

    unfortunately it is 'normal' in today's society, though I certainly don't think it's commendable. Get it over with and tell him the anxiety will just worsen until you do. At 19 I recommend not having it but only you can make that choice for yourself.

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  • Elegy

    Tell him right today.If he is glad then bring your child up together if you dont want do aborition cause its better than to be borned and left.If you have him dont leave please

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  • chicabonita

    Well.. As long as ur family aren't strong practicing Catholics... I would say you are good! If they are.. Good luck with that! ;)

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  • Laddie2468

    Tell him. And if he doest want to keep it or get married. Take care of it yourself or give it up for adoption

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  • motley

    I am just kidding,that was not funny.I am sorry.Everything will be o.k

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  • mmarkk

    Tell him. The longer you wait the more problems may occur including him being mad you didn't tell him..

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  • Smurf1011

    You're only 19 with your whole life ahead of you. First, do you want the baby? Second, can you see yourself with the same guy in three years? If the answer is no to both, you need not tell him. One thing though, learn from this.

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  • cwilliams109

    You need to talk about. If you don't it makes everything worse. I have two cousins who found out they were preg a few months ago. One older than you and the other younger. Once they told their bfs. And family they have had so much love and support. My husbands little sister is also preg and she's only 16, after the shock, we are all so excited and trying to help out. It's scary at first.

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  • illestsheet

    I'm 19 and was pregnant my boy freind and I have been together for two years and I told him. He supported me and was there and still is there for me! Tell me what else can u do? If he loves u he'll walk u through it

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  • b454

    Was 19 also. I was with a guy on and off for almost 2 years and a few months after we ended it for good, we 'got together' one more time and that was that. I was pregnant and did not want to tell him cus I just wanted to be done with him. Well I had to tell him and now he's in my life forever (its been 11 years now).

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  • Listen

    You must tell your boyfriend, after that discussion, decide on what's happening with the baby.

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  • Piconano

    It's normal, but definitely a path full of risks. I'm too young to be of good judgment but I do know that he (your boyfriend) deserves to know.

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  • princesspea105

    Tell him. It's the best thing for both of you. Consider your options together. Don't be scared, you aren't alone and there will be good out of this. My friend is 17, she just had two twins and when she first figured out she was pregnant, she was horrified! She couldn't tell anyone. When she finally told me, I helped her tell her mom and boyfriend. They were all shocked at first but quickly became supportive. Now she's raising her two twins with her (now) fiancé and she says that she couldn't be happier!

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  • Very normal he will find out one way or another and i promise if someone other than u tells him he will be devastate and never get over it be honest hes the father of ur baby just tell him!

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  • u need to tell him and its better if its ASAP but no dont ask for marriage... way too young to really make those kind of decisions... mainly because u prob dont know what he is 100% like....

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  • bear312

    i agree with the bored guy and u really should tell him

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  • BoredGuy

    1st you gotta tell him
    2nd you gotta decide if you wanna keep it
    3rd check if you wanna marry the guy and if he wanna marry you

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  • 8Serene8

    As everyone says you have to tell him.

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  • dappled

    You have to tell him, whatever the outcome. I do hope things go well for you, though.

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  • Proudfear

    tell him

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  • Gardenia

    Yeah, you should tell him. But remember you are young and most likely than not your gonna be the one taking care of the child.

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  • hot2trot

    Tell him now. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

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  • randomjelly

    It's normal but not the easiest route to take. I hope things go well for you and your child.

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  • OneSteven

    There's a difference between what's moral and normal and that says a lot about our society.
    It is wrong and immoral for a bride to have a big belly under that wedding dress.

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    • Jeci_Cassidy

      what the hell dude? It's not wrong and immoral. She never said she was gonna marry the guy. Oh good god don't do anything this fool tells you. Don't listen to him, He's probably some freak that's never been laid or he still lives with him mom.

      Hun you do what you feel is right.

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    • Gabriell

      God.... wrong don't know, immoral NO! What the hell dude?

      Tell tha guy about the babie, don't get married if that be not necessary, tell someone else you trust

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  • gako

    It's called a condom. Wear it.

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    • blueraejay

      to gako: it is obviously too late for that. comments like that are inconsiderate and stupid.
      telling him is a good first step, and then talking about what you both want is a good second step.

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      • Jeci_Cassidy

        I agree. It's a little late for the whole condom thing.
        In today's society it's perfectly normal. But you should probably talk to your boyfriend about the situation and decide what to do from there.
        The longer you wait to tell him the harder it's going to be for you, and him.

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  • skyhuh24

    I think an abortion is the best option

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    • blueraejay

      to skyhuh24: abortion?? she didn't say she didn't want the baby. Also, adoption is always an option if it is unwanted.

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    • Jeci_Cassidy

      abortion is not always the answer. Just because you believe in abortion don't mean She does. She never said she did want the baby and even if she didn't there are more decent ways to get rid of a baby, Like Adoption, I'm sure someone out there will adopt a baby.

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