Is it normal to be possessive over an fwb?

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I didn't think I'd develop feelings for my fwb but I have and now it sucks b/c he just wants the no strings attached. I wouldn't mind keeping it a fwb but I hate it when girls flirt with him or when he texts girls in front of me. I told him not to have sex with other girls or date other girls since we're in a fwb. But now I'm kind of jealous and want to keep him all to myself. We do things like a couple. I've met his family many times and they seem to love me. I cook for him, we cuddle, he sees me on his lunch break, (for quick sex and to cuddle) we talk almost everyday, and when we're around other people, the minute we're alone, he loves to sneak kisses and "says sorry about that I just couldn't help myself". I'm confused b/c it feels like I'm dating him but then again we aren't. Idk what to do anymore. I swore I wouldn't get feelings but ended up doing it and I want more out of him. Like no other girls, just me and him.

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    13 years ago

    He's trying to have his cake and eat it too, and he'll continue to do so unless you do something to stop him. If you can't then you should leave him for someone else and see how he reacts.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    It sounds more like a relationship to me and the FWB tag is just a convenient way to avoid anything he's uncomfortable with, like commitment, fidelity, or a future with you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    That's why friends with benefits is the stupidest thing ever. . . It almost never works

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Ur gonna b connected with almost anyone u have sex with...

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  • Janvier
    13 years ago

    It's pretty normal to have feelings for someone who is like that with you, and like dappled said, it sure does look like he's using FWB as a means of not having to commit. Has he had past girlfriends? How did it end up between them? Were those relationships long and committed? Or were they really short, and why? Maybe he really likes you but has commitment issues and is only stringing you along for his sexual needs. Either way, if you think you can stay as only an FWB with him and withstand him being flirty with other girls, power to you, but if you can't, I suggest you break off the this FWB thing before your feelings get worse and you end up doing something you'll regret.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Yes his past relationship lasted 5 years and they broke up a month before we got together. He says he's doing fine and is happy right now but Idk if he's truly over it b/c he told me right now, he doesn't want to put all his eggs in one basket. I wouldn't cheat on him but he's afraid of getting hurt again and it sucks for both of us! He says he doesn't want us to always have sex. He's happy just cuddling and watching a movie with me. Or playing video games. I'll give it until March. In the meantime, I suppose I'll just be looking around for other guys to date. Why is it soo hard?

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  • brinad6
    13 years ago

    Been there done that

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    i hope in the future u will not agree to a "fwb" arrangement. this "relationship" (and i use that term loosely) i think was doomed from the start, and this was prone to happen. its too late to go back and say u dont want to have sex anymore. the only thing u can do is tell him u didnt expect your feelings to progress as they did and that youve learned the hard way fwb isnt for you. next time, dont let him have his cake and eat it too. if u dont show you care about yourself, he wont either.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    He won't but the cow when the milk is free. Hopefully you're old enough to know what that means.

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  • Austalien
    12 years ago

    jealousy is primative monkey behaviour be clear with each other from the start so it doesn't end up like the situation your in.

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