Is it normal to be persistent?

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Good day! i have a problem please help me, you know i have a crush and she's my crush during my college days during the day i tried to add her on facebook and message her but she does not responded not even once to my messages so i decided to unfriend her but i regret it, i tried to add her again but she didnt accept it until now i really like her i always send her messages but again shes not responding i know and im sure shes not interested with me but i do really like her, i know the best thing i can do is to move on and find another girl. there are lots of girls out there yes but she's the only one i like, is it ok to be persistent? when i unfriended her do you think she got mad that she doesnt even want to read my messages? oh yeah she doesnt even reading my messages or does she wants me to feel that shes not interested with me at all, please give some help...

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    You're making a fool of yourself. Stop.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      Yes you are absolutely right, thank you sir.

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  • TurtleBurger
    7 years ago

    Dude. Stop. Honestly, you're embarrassing yourself. That level of persistence can mean only two things: she's either mocking you behind your back for being so persistent or you're freaking her out.

    You need to take a hint and leave her alone. There ARE plenty of other girls out there and the only reason you're not interested in any of them is because you're so obsessed with this girl you're not willing to see your other options.

    She's ignoring you for a reason. Leave her alone. You know what you should do? Block her yourself. Not just defriend but completely block her on all social media platforms so you can completely separate yourself from her and let it go.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      i appreciate your help sir, but to be honest i really like her i didnt say anything wrong with her for me im just enjoying to message her even shes not replying as long as i have nothing bad to say to her i told myself i want to message her but i think youre right sir, from now on i wont message her, do you really think that shes mocking at me behind my back? well it hurts sir..

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      • TurtleBurger
        7 years ago

        Y'know it just occurred to me that she's probably already blocked your number. When someone blocks your number it appears as though your messages are going through but they're not receiving them on the other end.

        Either way, yes she is absolutely mocking you to her friends. There's no way a girl wouldn't tell her friends about the creepy guy who text messages every day and can't take a hint when she ignores him.

        Obviously it's going to hurt, but it's only going to hurt for however long you let it hurt. Stop messaging her before she slaps you with a restraining order and find something else to occupy your mind with. SOMETHING else, not SOMEONE else, just to reiterate. Don't transfer this obsessive behavior to a different girl. Step back and look at what you are doing so you don't make this same mistake again.

        My advice: join a gym and focus on your fitness instead.

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        • mihawk
          7 years ago

          Thank you sir... i dont message her everyday but youre right ill stop thankyou sir, as they say sometimes the truth aint pretty, that it is.

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  • DuHast
    7 years ago

    "i know the best thing i can do is to move on" - You're completely right. That's the one.
    You know that, but I think you just don't want to accept it.

    I'm sure you want to hear something else, but it's obvious she's not interested. Do yourself a favour and stay well away from entering stalker territory.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      i appreciate your help sir, im not a stalker sir im just an admirer i guess, but youre right sir, do you think sir she gets angry at me each time i send her a message? you know sir i didnt say anything wrong to her do you think shes mad?

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        If you keep contacting someone who's made it clear she's not interested in you, that is a form of stalking.

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        • mihawk
          7 years ago

          Ok mam thank you i really really appreciate your help, truth hurts but it will set you free, is it?

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    To a girl, the only difference between a guy acting creepy or cute is how attractive he is. You are not attractive enough.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      I think so! How hurts sir, i might not be attractive enough for her but shes lucky in other ways i guess but the worse is she coudnt see it so its time to say stop. Thanks sir i really appreciate that

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  • Longdeyinying
    7 years ago

    She flaked. And then you unfriended her. The whole thing is done. Move on.

    At that point, any further attempts would say about you that either you're a creeper or the passive-aggressive and emotionally abusive type. Spare yourself the embarrassment.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      the whole thing is done perhaps you're right, but the embarrassment that you're talking about is a hell no!keep this in your mind kid, as long as you've said and done nothing wrong, there's nothing to be ashamed of.

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      • Longdeyinying
        7 years ago

        I'm 31. I used to be a lot like you in that I was highly bothered by things like this. It gets easier over time as you become more desensitized by the recurring situations, especially if you've gone as far as to try to hold onto failing relationships. I learned this the hard way and speak from experience. The problem is that you're still trying to hold onto the possibility of something happening that won't. It doesn't matter if you haven't done anything wrong, if she is not interested and you are still trying, that leaves you wide open to all kinds of accusations and judgements that she WILL talk about. It is better to look for someone who will reciprocate the interest, and in the beginning stages not throw all your eggs in one basket.

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        • mihawk
          7 years ago

          Im not as weak as you may think man, before you talk try to read my comments i said i wont bother her i accepted the fact that shes not interested with me, so what do i care if you used to be like me? I didnt even ask you to make a comment here please back off

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          • Longdeyinying
            7 years ago

            I haven't said anything wrong or bullied you or anything, just giving you a realistic answer and constructive criticism. If you wear your heart on your sleeve and can't handle it, then don't post your personal problems on the internet.

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            • mihawk
              7 years ago

              who the hell do you think you are? in the first place i didnt remember asking favor or help to you, i dont need your opinion thats it, before you make a comment try to understand the situation first, before you made a comment here ive already made up my mind not to bother her anymore and then you made a rude comment about embarrassment, i didnt feel embarassed you asshole because ive said nothing wrong bullshit!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • McBean
    7 years ago

    You are thinking too small, good sir. Think bigger. Build your harem with quality female material. Become the sultan of erotic pleasure.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      Yeah sir thanks i appreciate all of you thank you very much from the bottom of my heart

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  • Fall_leaves
    7 years ago

    You didn't have a relationship with this girl, you had no previous ties to her, other than you having a crush, she has zero obligation to respond to you because there was never any form of interaction between you to begin with! A crush on someone whose never responded to you should tell you something!

    Yes it's rude and bitchy and she could have just as easily said hello and been nice and told you she wasn't interested but that's her prerogative. And if in fact she is mocking you behind your back for liking her then she's a bitch, that should speak volumes for the type of person she is. If she's treating you like you're less of a person that should tell you she's actually the one that is subpar and doesn't deserve you. The way people treat you says more about them than it does you, just remember that, it's her karma and it's her problem not yours.

    There are people who have the uncomfortable conversations and then there are people who avoid them, she doesn't have the balls to confront you so stop. I promise you she is not worth your time or energy and if she ever does respond she'l just prove to be a disappointment. You're running yourself down dude.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      hey sir, how are you? do you have a facebook account? can i add you sir?

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      Sir if you have Facebook account or any social media can you please give it to me? You make me feel a man again sir i would like to be your friend.

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      • Fall_leaves
        7 years ago

        I'm not sure how you took that to mean you should continue pursuing her?

        "She's a jerk if she thinks that ill stop sir" the red flags been raised.. You don't know her, she's probably freaked out because some guy she doesn't know is messaging her. Your intentions may be "pure" but she doesn't know you to know that.

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        • mihawk
          7 years ago

          I mean if shes mocking me behind my back shes a jerk i guess from now on i wont message her, rejections and dissapointments are always part of our lives, are they? You know sir it truly hurts when youre ignored by the person who's attention is the only thing you want in the world but thats the reality its time to face the truth that she wont be mine thats it sirr

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          • Fall_leaves
            7 years ago

            If she's using your messages to mock you behind your back to have something to gossip about instead of actually talking to you, then yeah she's a jerk.

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            • mihawk
              7 years ago

              Yes sir thank you, you give me a new hope. You have said something really hurts but at the same time you enlightened me with your supportive words sir but to be honest sir i feel hurt its too painful to face the truth but this is the right thing to do instead.

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    • mihawk
      7 years ago

      Thankyou sir, you make my day with your wonderful message sir, to be honest youre right sir my intention is very pure but if shes mocking at me behind my back thats the 1 thing i woudnt accept because i wish her nothing but the best i either think its her problem at all, you know sir i super agree to you, she can say hello to me but she coudnt, is it too hard to do that? I guess she wants me to feel that shes on a whole other level that even a single reply is not worth giving, is that it sir? shes jerk if she thinks that ill stop sir. Thank you very much sir..

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