Is it normal to be paralyzingly shy at 20??

The stereotype that quiet people are "snobby" is ridiculous. Snobs are always extroverts. They can't help but tell the world how great they are, and they like manipulating people.

I like people like you. I like saying strange things and seeing your reactions.

Other people share such a predicament. They just tend to become even more isolated after highschool ends, spending most of their time at home or otherwise keeping to themselves. You tend not to see them out and about like everyone else.

And your attractiveness has little to do with people thinking you're a snob. They think that about everyone who's quiet.

No its not 'normal' but I love shy girls. (im actually shy myself)

wait, people think quiet people are snobs? that kind of explains alot

im the same i cant even look at people in the eyes Talking ? forget about it. I have nothing to talk about anyway which doesnt help so most off the time i just drift in and out of space and reply yeah yeah that sucks ect ect till the person shuts up and leaves its getting worse as i get older because its on my mind alot more but onestly i dont know what too do so i just try and ignore it

I believe a lot of people such as yourself suffer from social anxiety. I personally, dislike running into people I know out in public. I always feel a little awkward. I'm not a fan of awkward silence. I hate not knowing what to say next. Therefore, I tend to ramble. So afterwards I feel like a complete idiot. I try to avoid it at all cost. I'm the same way when it comes to being on the phone. I truly love being around people and I am very social. But in most situations I feel like I'm going to say something to make myself look like a total idiot. It really sucks to feel like that.so I know what your going through.

I am the same i am was always scared to hang out with people that i wasn't really close with. Beacuse i was scared they didn't want me around even though i knew we got along fine. My advice is to try and find a job or hobby that you are really interested in. and try to make friends with people who work there aswell. This should ensure you atleast have something in common with them and hopefully improve your confidence with talking to people that are new.

omgg, im the same thing but im 14.. :/

people tend to think im snobby but absolutely not, im just that very shy and quiet. :/

It can be a sign of low self esteem usually from real unpleasant and negative experiences with people...it can hurt your life...luckily your a girl and guys will usually still ask you out...unless you are totally in your own world where you dont even make eye contact or smile

I am the same!! But I am 14 so ya!

Thanks guys, that's really helpful to know I'm not the only one.. MadMar, I really identify with that- I often do the same thing because I hate being akward.
The worst part is going on first date with a with-it, intelligent guy and then rambling on and making a total idiot of myself and coming home and rehashing every moronic thing I said.
I know I'm not as ditzy as I come accross but it's hard to be myself when I'm so self conscious. I feel like to avoid embarrassing myself, I need to avoid society at all costs lol.

same here ;) i am very shy and when i was Shopping with a Friends a Boy started to Talk to me and i really didn't kneow what to say and my Head turned Red i think. so i walked away and then He shouted that i'm snoby and so forth. it was really Strange Cause this Guy didn't knew me but now i just ignore those People ;)