Is it normal to be overprotected by everyone?

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So the thing is I'm 24 and I've never been able to go out with my friends without breaking any rules or making somebody else feel disappointed of me. When I was younger my parents never let me go out with friends anywhere, my friends could come home if they wanted but still weren't able to do certain things in my house because my mom got angry. As I grew up and became a little more independent and found a way to convince my parents to let me go out as other people do, I fell in love with the most gorgeous and popular guy in school and he became my boyfriend...well he turned out pretty the same as my parents...now that i'm older and can drive and earn my own money, i can't do anything i want, and when i try to follow my instincts and go out or do something like that, everyone gets mad at me or scold me or tell me i've changed and lost my grace or something...EVERYONE!!! my mom, my sisters,mi boyfriend, even my gymnastics coach!!! what am i suposed to do??!!! am i a people pleaser?? or am i just stupid?? or am i to weak?? or what the heck??!!! because i'm afraid one day i'll wake up and realize i'm 80 years old and never got to be myself or have fun or enjoy life and friendships...

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  • trytoforgetthis
    12 years ago

    Seems to me like you think this is your life, but everyone around you has been living it for you.

    Ummm, one thing though. You're 24, I think that's old enough to decide when you can go to the restroom without raising your hand, yeah?? (figuratively speaking)

    If you really want to break out of this, do so. But, remember, there are consequences for everything. And with the lifestyle you've been living your entire life, I fear if you decide to break out drastically you'll end up crawling back to the people you broke away from.

    Hmmm.

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  • theabider
    12 years ago

    I'm in the same boat.

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  • den411
    13 years ago

    I worry my daughter will end up like you I have a feeling I will be very overprotective to the point that it is conditioning. You seem smart enough to figure this one out on your own. Live a little, not everyone or everything you do has to meet their approval. Your 24 years old! Allow yourself to make bad decisions, and learn to navigate and have fun. Stay away from drugs, sexually promiscous people, and violent guys, those are the only rules.

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  • twixzy
    14 years ago

    U are basically a walking talkong doormat. No this is def notttt normal

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    one would think that if EVERYONE is your life is telling you that your ideas are bad ideas, then i suggest next time someone tells you that, then you make sure to ask them why.

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    • AbbeyInWonderland
      14 years ago

      thank u, i'll do it.
      u.u

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