Is it normal to be over shy?

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Well...I tend to get more shy than needed. I'm a good looking girl, but certainly curvy. Have no problem getting guys, but yet I can never admit my feelings. Whether it be to admit I like someone, or don't feel the same back. Anything I can do to get over this extra shyness? It's pretty bad. Once they add me on facebook, I don't even like to look in into their eyes. It's like I'm afraid they saw something they didn't like and I'm waiting for them to snap. Can anyone help..?

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  • heywhatsgoingon
    12 years ago

    i had the same issue... in groups and with friends and new people im fine and get along with everyone and start conversations etc etc.. i cant start a proper conversation with a girl and i always get myself into a hella awkward situation kinda like something out of a sitcom lol... i feel exactly the same i figure its just a part of growing up and learning to socialize with other people around you..

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  • Wierdmyself
    12 years ago

    Haha... it's a leap of faith, take it. If you want to go out, if not don't. I can remember when, well actually I'm still like that in some ways.

    And at the same time!!! I'm also not shy, I can talk to friends,strangers, or older women and such. Get told how handsome I am all the time, but I just don't go on dates or feel uneasy when I see someone I like... like we don't connect at all. Sometimes, I wait for people to give me a hard time for liking someone (so, I hide my emotions). I sometimes, I will go out of my way just to look the other way of girl I like.

    Just hang in there, you'll meet someone you can unload on. I did, were not together or anything anymore, but I did once.

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  • bigguy2010
    12 years ago

    Have you discussed this problem with your doctor or a counselor? They can help you.

    In the meantime, I recommend "The Self-Esteem Workbook" by Glenn R. Schiraldi. It is available through the nook or nook apps. It explores the concept of self-worth and common misconceptions, and offers exercises to help you appreciate the core self while separating it from external factors.

    Best Wishes!!!

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  • Your.Mom
    12 years ago

    It sounds like you have self esteem issues, not "shy personality" issues.
    In your question you verbally put yourself down 3 times. You said you are curvy like it's a bad thing, you said your inability to communicate is bad, and that you think they can easily find something they don't like about you.

    It doesn't matter if any of those things are true or not, the point is you are basically stating that you're not good enough as it is. I think if you work on your confidence that your personality will shine through. Just because guys like you doesn't mean you have the confidence to survive here, you have to give yourself the confidence.

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