Is it normal to be openly obsessive towards "friends"?

I have had a few "friends" I guess I just got obsessed over, like I just wanted their attention and I might of been falling in love, (or so I thought,) but it always turns out to them not wanting to talk to me and ignoring me I had one to the point of blocking me on everything we could contact each other with. I guess I get annoying to them but I just cant help it, I try my best to make them happy but they never seem satisfied. (sorry for the length)

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  • RoseIsabella

    Sounds like you are being clingy, and creeping people out. Maybe you need to chill?

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  • Hagart

    I’m the same way and I know it’s wrong. I really can’t stop though. Maybe I’m afraid of being left out or conpletely abandoned but I actually get mad when my friend hang out with others more than me which I don’t think is a good reason to be mad all the time so I never really say anything but still...

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  • mattypattpatt

    It can be difficult to hold back, when you have so much love to give. But you have to try, because an overwhelming amount of obsessive attention will drive people a way. It is important to be honest with people, tell them how you feel, and apologize for your own shortcomings. It may not be your fault for acting that way, but if your not trying to be better, then you never will be.

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    • I'm always trying to better myself for the people I like, and i let them know i'm willing to do anything to make them happy.

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      • mattypattpatt

        It's important that you don't blame your self. Your trying your best and that's admirable. But being "willing to do anything to make them happy" can be intimidating for many people. If you are young, then it might be an age thing. Many people have issues with friends in middle and high school. Its just important to stay true to yourself.I wish I could help more.

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        • Its ok! you've helped enough~ I just wanted to see what people would think and see if i could get any advice I haven't thought of, or got yet.

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  • bigrichard69

    If you had some kind of lonesome childhood or something or still are lonely that'd make sense.
    Give them a break and try to hang out with more strangers. Keep it diverse and don't focus all of your attention on them.
    If you can't contact them anymore then it's possible they aren't even good friends (I guess I'd have to know your situation in more detail though) so you should make new ones.

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    • sorry for the lack of info but i'm not sure what else to say, but I don't get out too often and i'm kinda shy about meeting new people, I try to back off when they ask. I normally do anything they ask really, even if its a "never message me again" type of thing :/

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      • bigrichard69

        Okay then to put it bluntly, you're most likely a doormat and not very interesting.
        If you've got the money, get out more often and push yourself to be extroverted. If you think it's uncomfortable to be out then punch yourself mentally and get over it.
        If you've got any hobbies you can participate in at home then try and find people with similar interests and discuss it with them. If you want to be interesting, then don't just be the listener, be the talker.
        Even meeting people online works. I never fucking get out but I tend to get into deep conversations or opinionated rants with lots of people online that can turn into friends.

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        • I've only had one irl person I done this to, i'm always trying to strive for what should be the best for me, and thanks for putting it bluntly lol, if only it was as easy as it sounds lol

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  • aheiou

    try to be more considerate and take a break sometimes, go apologize.

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    • kind of hard to apologize when I have no way of contacting them

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