Is it normal to be ok with monogamy only sometimes?

its normal to randomly get the urge to have random sex, but you shouldn't ever act on it unless you've discussed with your partner BEFORE it happens, not after.

I can see someone getting hurt badly unless it is a mutually agreed in whatever format. What is done under the cover of darkness is usually not fruitful. Better to do in the light and have fun. However, you're in a bind if your partner is against an open arrangement.

My opinion is based on the age old male insecurity, maybe he's a better lover than me, maybe you will fall in love with him, maybe love him more than me etc. This is my motivation for being monogamous, selfishness and insecurity. I don't want another man's cock inside my princess. And if I am monogamous and she trusts me, I have reasonable comfort that I can trust her to be faithful as well. Misguided perhaps. This is not a reflection of my wonderful girl.

You need to be in an open relationship. If you cant hack being faithful all the time monogamy is not for you.

Talk to him, the prospect of an open relationship might appeal to him as well.

i personaly believe that humans wernt meant to b manogomas. its silly to think just one person can make u happy for life. its realistic to give each other 'passes' to fuck other people once in a while. it will keep u together.

It's totally normal to have any type of desire for sex with someone *other* than your committed partner. It's your mind, you can't always control what's in your head. But you can choose your behavior.

Whatever you decide is between you and your partner. I have a person on my life that I've been seeing for about 7 months. We don't see each other often and are in no rush to commit to each other as boyfriends. Reason being: we're both super busy, and we both enjoy our independence. But the plus side is every time I see him (maybe once a month) we fall in love all over again, and spend the whole day together. And each of us have either had feelings or hook-ups with other people. It doesn't bother us. We're only dating.

But if you're "committed" to someone, you should have a chat with your partner about what exactly that means, and be completely honest about your feelings. Because although he may have forgiven you, you don't know what he's really feeling. My partner and I have spent hours and hours talking numerous times about our relationship and anyone else who comes into our lives. You're probably going to need to have multiple talks as well.

Good luck!

You could always spice things up by asking your partner if they'd be interested in having a threesome.

Yes, it's normal. People crave sexual variety sometimes. But I agree with the others who say that you should discuss your desires with your partner before you act on them.

don't ruin your life, like I did

What you should do is never, ever act on those desires regardless of whether he said he forgave you or not. The desires are normal, the inability to control them is definitely not.

What? Humans are monogamous? Now that's new to me....

Completely normal. Im thinking about sex all the time.

I firmly believe that we were not menat to be monogamous. The only reason we continue to believe it is because of religion which in and of itself has more problems than this board. Sexuality is free flowing and should be explored, not contained from 21-life just because a Priest says so. Go with it and you will find freedom from prison

Here's what you should do, ask you partner to have threesomes or whatever so you don't have to cheat on him lol

It was normal until I realized a girl wrote this.