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I was talking with a friend and told her that I don't plan on having children. She told me "Oh, don't worry, you'll DEFINITELY want kids!!". I felt quite offended by this IIN?
It's completely normal to be annoyed by people who disrespect and reduce the important of your feelings by assuming they are fleeting, or by assuming that they know more than you do about what you really want.
Normal. Anyone would be offended if an idiot was making assumptions about them.
It's normal. I don't want kids either, although it is possible I might change my mind in the distance future, maybe because my life goal is to leave behind as much as I can, but I also completely understand wanting to never have kids. As of now, if I never have kids, it wouldn't upset me, mainly because I have so much more I want to do that having kids could prevent.
If I ever accidently have a kid though I would accept the responsibility.
Ugh. I'm a woman and I don't ever plan on having any babies either. It's totally fine to not ever have kids, this world doesn't need anymore people as it is.
I hate when people do this. Some people, once they've bred, they either forget or are in denial of just how terrible child can be and they then try to push their "blessings" on others. My maternal line did that, though, probably for different reasons... It bothered me then and it still does now. I don't like kids. I don't have the energy for them. I don't have the money or the time. If I do have kids, they'll probably never be biological. Just tell those people that the planet is overpopulated and that you are doing your duty to save it by not having any kids. The guilt should shut them up, but it doesn't hurt to guilt them more with more hard hitting facts.
I understand that as well. I have absolutely no desire to have kids. Too much work and responsibility, plus the world is overpopulated as is. Honestly I don't even see the pull. I can only barely tolerate kids and the only reason I do is because I must. They're everywhere and people seem to hold them in high regard.
Having kids is the norm, and is based on fairly strong biological hard-wiring. Most people don't recognize that questioning someone's desire to not have kids is really condescending and borderline disrespectful, they just assume everyone will or should want to have kids. All the same, though, you just need to let that shit roll off your back. People are going to do it over and over, especially if you're a woman. Get used to it and find a decent way to deflect, or it's likely to affect your friendships until their kids get into junior-high...