Is it normal to be offended..

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So, I've been kinda sick lately. Today was the worst, and after my significant other and I woke up he went to hang out with his friends, and ended up being gone all day. I napped and started to feel significantly better. He texted me saying he was going to go caving with his friends, I expressed wanting to come too, I love that shit. Anyway, they had already left, so I couldn't come. Then when they return after a few hours he goes downtown to hang out with his friend more, THEN invites me. I support him having guy time, that's great.

Now I'm offended by the situation because he didn't offer at all to take care of me, or do anything to help me feel better. We've been together over 8 months, and are "in love". When he was sick in the past I brought him soup and hung out with him. But in return I get ditched all day, and left alone to care for myself. Lately he's been acting self-centered and he always says sorry and promises to do better. When he doesn't it just keeps pushing me away.. I'm tired of not getting the same treatment in return.
Is it normal to be offended? Or am I being too sensitive?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I was thinking "Why should he take care of you", "let the man have time with his friends". I was thinking that until you said you took care of him when he was ill. I think they guy was being selfish, and you deserved to be treated how you treated him when he was ill.

    Tell him about it.

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    Why don't we just face facts?

    You're boring when you're sick and few men want to waste their day off, or the opportunity to hang out with their mates, while you're just lying in bed napping. He knew you weren't going to die and you had your phone nearby if you needed an ambulance. In his mind, what more could he do?

    They're selfish little creatures who'd rather be out 'playing' with their mates. Little boys really! The sooner you learn this, the happier you will both be.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I always stay home and take care of my girl when she is sick! I thought that is what they guy was supposed to do, protect and care for his girl. Is that wrong?

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    It's one of those little quirks of human nature. When men get sick, women want to look after them. When a man gets sick, they usually want to look after themselves.
    When a woman gets sick, your best bet is to find another woman to look after you. If you have a mother, that's your best bet.
    The reason for this, is a throwback to pre-historic times. Think about it. Females (nest makers) would usually stay near the encampment, while males would usually forage further afield in groups. If a male's mate becomes ill, she could spread a disease to her mate, and then to the rest of the clan. If all the males in the clan become sick, this can have a devastating effect on the entire group.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    When your sick everything seems 10000000x worse than it really is, so I'd imagine this situation hurt more than it usually would. I totally know where your at though, when your sick is when your loved one should be there the most. I say your normal, I'd be peeved to

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  • myownopinions
    11 years ago

    It's normal to feel that way, and it's also normal for your boyfriend to not want to take care of you. If it is really bothering you, though, then just tell him.

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  • BurnaBaby27
    11 years ago

    Guys don't have the same "common sense" as we do. You'd think it was common sense to take care of your significant other while they were sick, but his opinion of caring for you might have been to just stay out of your way and not bother you until you felt better.

    My boyfriend is an idiot when it comes to understanding a woman's perspective. I'm constantly teaching him things that I thought were supposed to be common sense.

    Talk to him about it.

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    • barbiegal
      11 years ago

      Lol so true!

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