Is it normal to be obsessed with a guy who only used you for sex?

He's clearly a dick. Get rid and get someone that loves yoo back and actually deserves yoo. I had the same happen too me with a guy called chris, it hurt so much but now I'm with a guy I love and I'm happy (: & throwing a bottle & a lit ciggarette at him one day helped a little too :D x

I know exactly what you mean. I was obsessed with him. I hated him because I hated myself for loving him. I couldn't go a day without thinking about him. Dreamed about him, could not get off without thinking about him. I used to text him a few times a day despite my knowing he was using me. We hooked up several times over the years but it was always on his terms. I was always there when he wanted me and I would just drop everything even knowing he is an asshole. I still feel the same way but I have since blocked him on facebook and erased his number to stop myself from stalking him. It's depressing.

He's more appealing because you can't have him. Trust me. He's a jerk. Do whatever it takes to never talk to him again. It will only hurt you and fuck with your sense of self-respect. I've been there.

Its normal because ive been through it. Difference is the guy wasnt honest with me and kept pulling me along because he wanted sex. At least the guy was honest with you. Stop thinking about him! He doesnt deserve you or want you because he has commitment issues. So move on and find a nice guy and you will stop obsessing over this douchebag.

Haha, classic. Just classic.

Like someone else said he must have quite the ding dong AND know how to use it.

He's just saying nice things to you so he can keep you as a f*** buddy.

I hope you've learned a lesson from this relationship.

Don't put the cart before the horse!!

In other words, be friends and get to know him in a relationship before you have sex with him. It's your female hormone oxytocin that makes you want someone after you have sex with them. Also it's, what ifs and if onlys, for you but in reality it's not for him. I know a guy like him and advised my friend against him but she went with him, got dumped, cried, all the usual. Some women love to treated like crap, coz these men are so exciting and challenging - not good, decent men though.

I somewhat agree with "joybird". My wife acts very loving for a day or even 2 sometimes after sex. It's kind of nice, but I sure wish it would last longer. It's definitely due to the oxytocin hormone that you chicks produce. To be honest, after a bit of a dry spell a while ago (no sex at all) I noticed that it's kinda wierd to get used to her mood swings caused by sex. These days, most of the time we just "tolerate" each other, and the "lovey-dovey" mushy stuff is pretty much been long since gone from our relationship.

Anyhow, your guy friend has been just using you for sex and you fell in love. It happens. You are merely his "practice-girl", so to speak, like Meg on the TV show "Family Guy". Is he by-chance married or does he have another girlfriend? You'll say no, but are you SURE?

Bottom line... you gotta get off your ass and go find another guy to start a relationship with and start fuckin' him. In the meanwhile, QUIT fuckin' this bum that's using you, and go back to using your finger or a vibrator. You can do it. Do that, and you'll forget all about this guy that has just been using you for his fuck toy and you might actually get into what you really want, which is a relationship where the guy actually reciprocates his love for you.

Women like to think that they can "fix" or "change" a guy. Doesn't happen. We all are who we are. Love 'em for who they are or move on.

If the sex was really that amazing, you should be obsessed with him.....