Is it normal to be obsessed and want my boyfriend all to myself?

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now... we are EXTREMELY close and dependent on one another. We are equally obsessed with each other and literally spend every moment we possibly can together. We are both committed and in love and I trust him completely.

The problem is lately ive changed into someone i dont like. i almost need to be with him ALL the time and whenever hes with his friends (especially girl friends) i get extremely jealous, i try hide it from him, but he can always tell when im upset, and then we just get into a big fight. i know im too dependent on him and im trying to not be so jealous all the time (about little trivial things) but i cant help it, i just get so upset i cry, and then i get angry and take it out on him! and hes always so confused and thinks hes done something wrong when im the one with the problem!!!

I dont even have a social life anymore, its literally always with him, so isnt it normal that i feel this way? but more importantly what can i do to change? i dont want to be so obsessed and controlling with him.....

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  • davidian
    13 years ago

    It is normal, but try to keep it on a low, cuz chances are You are gonna lose him exactly over this..
    Can become annoying, especially for boyz..
    He might start not telling You the truth about who and where he went out with etc. Just to avoid the claws of Your obsession..
    Really, You can't force such things!! He's only gonna be all Yours when HE wants to!! NOT YOU! this works bothways..

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  • birchboy
    13 years ago

    i think it is normal in the sense that this happens to many of us at one time or another but i don't think this is healthy, based on personal experience. It very well may be unhealthy codependency or emotional attachment. I would seek therapy, or, at the very least, discuss this with your partner and make healthier decisions together.

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  • 1985
    13 years ago

    It's not normal. You even said it yourself that you were the one with problem. let him hang with his friends, yes even with girls. he loves you he won't cheat :) And some time apart makes you guys miss each other even more

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  • starkitty
    13 years ago

    i am having exactly this same problem! i don't really have any freind to talk to about it because the only one i want to hang out with is him! and i know he would never be disloyal to me but i have ocd and when hes hanging out i either get really jealous or worried that he might get hurt! i dont know what to do

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    If you spend all your time together then how is it he hangs out with friends and other girls? Lol.

    Also there is nothing wrong with getting jealous. I know I wouldn't put up with my man hanging with other chicks. I font care if he hangs with guy friends but there is no need for other women to be in the picture. Just like women shouldn't be hanging with other men by themselves.

    Maybe talk to him about how it makes you feel and maybe he will agree to not hanging with women. Or ask him if you can be with him when he hangs with friends that way you won't have a reason to be jealous.

    Also, if you hate that you don't have a social life then start hanging with your friends once and awhile. As for me I have no need for hanging with anyone except my man *shrugs*

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