Is it normal to be naive about sex?

It's probably because I don't think of people in a sexual way, but I guess people assume that I would, for whatever reason. Maybe because I'm a guy.

In my teen years I shared a bed, briefly, with one of my sisters. My parents were upset when they found out and told me that I couldn't. I didn't understand why.

Similarly, I was told I wasn't allowed to be in a girls' rooms with her if the door was closed. I didn't understand that at the time either.

I finally realised why, almost a decade later, and I felt very offended that anyone would think I'd try to do anything sexual with another person.

I've learned from that. But now, as an adult in my mid 20s, I often have people misunderstand my intentions. I've been told it's because I treat men the same as women.
Or if someone tries to hit on me I don't usually realise it until later.

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  • Arm0se

    Yeah.... I fell you :/

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  • ReginaFalange

    At some points in your questions it seems like you might need to talk to a professional. As you say yoursefl, maybe you just don't get things the way most people do, and you'll need a way to learn how to interact with others.

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  • Shrunk

    Me too, whenever I see a naked guy it makes me laugh, I feel pretty dumb but can't seem to help it.. Just looks funny for some reason (not in a mean way more like embarrassed yet intrigued) and I always ask weird questions out of scientific curiosity, like is it possible to pee and come at the same time if they try really hard or had something different? Cause I think that'd be cool.. Heh heh...

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  • ez-riding

    Totally understand. I used to share a bed with my two brothers until i was about 12 years old. Then my parents kicked me out and gave me my own room and i hated it, mostly because i didn't understand what the problem was. My twin brother and i still had sleepovers in our late teens where we'd share a bed and my parents got SUPER upset. I only understood why years later.

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  • ibs

    Penis goes in the vagina. There, now you know.

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  • thegypsysailor

    Whether or not you are sexually aware, how can you be a teen in a multi-gender home and not know right from wrong? Were you raised in a bubble? Did you pay any attention to anything others around you were saying? Even preteens talk about boys and girls.
    Had you never read a book or seen a tv show?
    You do not paint yourself to be a very intelligent person.

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    • Alquen

      "how can you be a teen in a multi-gender home and not know right from wrong?"
      I don't know. I've always had a much different view on morality than other people. I've had to be told that things are "wrong" many times.

      "Were you raised in a bubble?"
      Pretty much. I was very sheltered.
      Plus I tended to spend a lot more time inside my head than not.

      "Did you pay any attention to anything others around you were saying?"
      Only when I was forced to.

      I'm not very intelligent when it comes to social stuff.
      Maths and sciences are where I do best.

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      • thegypsysailor

        I've fought the system (intentionally) all my life and I have made things much more difficult for myself than it had to be. The older I got, the less I wanted to fight, but it was too late by then. With no physical address, no credit (good or bad, as in never used it), and none of the usual signs of success (no house, car, credit cards, workplace) society just has no pigeon-hole for me now. That makes it hard to get services and help from the systems available to others of my age.
        If you make a bit of an effort now, to see how to make things run smoothly, and it will pay you back handsomely later in life.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I can relate.

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