Is it normal to be mocked for being fit and trying to stay healthy?

I have quite a few friends, a few that I play sports with and a few that I go to college with (with some overlapping). The few I go to college with have a tendency to mock me.

When we're all eating lunch and I pull out a salad and some grilled chicken... they persist with asking me how I can't eat REAL food... they joke with me about how they'd hate to be anything but curvy and how I have nothing for men to look at... they tell me about how life isn't worth LIVING if you can't enjoy it and eat and drink whatever you want!

As a kid, I was very sickly. My parents took me to doctors and the doctors told us that there was nothing they could do. I was always suffering from colds, flus and vitamin deficiencies. My parents were obese, all of the food we had in the house was either frozen or canned, no fruits or vegetables.

I started going to college and did a work study program and I realized that I needed to be healthy to get through the studying and the working... having to be in bed for 3 weeks out of every month was going to hurt me. I googled "How to get healthy" and that's where my journey began. I went from being sickly my whole life to being healthy and fit and I am the happiest I have ever been. I'm practically reliving my childhood the way it should have been done, playing outside, studying, going places...

The thing is, I don't feel like I should HAVE to justify living a fit lifestyle. I don't criticize others' lifestyle or weight. Why do people want to make me feel so bad for being so happy and healthy? I haven't gotten sick but once in the past year! Just once!

Why are people like this? Are people like this everywhere or do I have just a shitty group of friends?

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  • DannyKanes

    They're just jealous

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  • BHolt

    Let me guess, the USA? If so, can't say I'm surprised that Americans behave this way.

    Just keep doing what you're doing and get new friends. Some guys like curves sure, but I'd rather have a girlfriend who is healthy and takes care of herself.

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  • SeveralBirds

    It's common, but that doesn't mean it's ok. Your friends should respect your lifestyle choices.

    I think it's likely that they have it in their head that their comments are harmless because your lifestyle is typically more socially acceptable. I think it also comes from envy, whether they would admit it or not. Unhealthy lifestyle choices like minimal excersise and/or eating lots of food/bad food is often shamed by the media and made to be the butt of jokes. It's also possible that they feel insecure because you're trying harder than they are in that respect. Basically what I'm saying is, it's not you, it's them.

    I would recommend that you talk to them about it. Try to be calm and direct to avoid unnecessary conflict. If they are good friends, they aren't intentionally being rude or upsetting you, so they will be willing to stop doing so. It's important to clearly state what's wrong and how it makes you feel without using making it sound accusative. For example, "You guys are disrespecting me and invalidating my lifestyle choices" could be replaced with something like "When you guys make jokes about my lifestyle and try to get me do eat unhealthy food, it makes me feel hurt and invalidated, like I'm wronging you by doing this. It's really important to me that I keep up a healthy lifestyle, because I quickly begin to suffer when I don't."

    I was kind of guessing with the feelings words there so you might want to reword it to better reflect how their actions make you feel, and also so it sounds like something you would actually say.

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  • Nokiot9

    If ur the kind of guy that never shuts up about the gym and is constantly looking for a reason to expose themselves or take their shirt off, then yeah. Totally normal. I find that most people who are really into fitness judge others for not doing what they do, and are pretty self involved.

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  • Mando

    "... or do I have just a shitty group of friends?" BINGO. Well at least on this particular item they're fools. Lucky you to have acquired a fitness and health regime. Where are these girls going to be in 10 years - crash dieting in a losing battle of curves?

    As friends try to educate them. Stand up to them. Tease back. But if they are really mean, sabotaging you and getting on your nerves move on. What you are doing in managing your health is unassailably right

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  • ToxicCrayons

    Your friends are dumbasses. Obesity is unnatural.

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  • Fuck them.

    I went for a run the other day, and i ran past some fat chick and her friends. When they saw me they laughed at me. My first thought was "huh, i must be running weird."

    That's when the fat chick opened her fucking mouth and said "why do you even bother?"

    Now, i don't know what the fuck this means, but it pissed me off for some reason. I looked at her and said "Bitch, your fat ass needs to start running. Maybe if you spent more time working out, and less time stuffing your fucking face your giant ass wouldn't be taking up the whole damn sidewalk. You need to jump in front of one of these cars and hope it knocks the lard out of your elephant ass!"

    After that she shot me a dirty look. Her friends look at me and said "ohhh" and started laughing. I turned around and started running again. She yelled at me but i couldn't hear her at all.

    Don't worry about what they think of you. Fuck them. Im sorry if this comment doesn't make sense, i have the worst headache of my life. I think i might die. Lolz

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  • bluecoffeetable

    What they said^. Be proud, it's something very hard to do and I have yet to do it but some day i will.

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