Is it normal to be married and still have feelings toward others?

just masturbate while thinking about the women you want to cheat on your wife with and those guilty feelings will be ejaculated away

Stop going to other women for emotional fulfillment!! An emotional relationship is just as hurtful as a physical one- to me at least. Especially now that you've told your wife, if you don't stop, she may never be able to re establish trust in you... Is there a specific reason you feel the need to go to others rather than her? You should consider addressing that.

Try spicing up your marriage and do the things you used to together before you got married. Find time for each other to rebuild that spark. Daily life puts pressure on all marriages but communication is the key and just constantly remind yourself how she made you feel when you first met. Try bring that feeling back.

I agree if you still lust after other women you should have never married in the first place.

It sounds normal from what you're describing. It's happened to me twice and I'm engaged and in love with someone I've been with for 5 years. I experienced the same intense guilt you mentioned and couldn't understand what was happening. After speaking with a trusted friend who is also in a comitted, long, healthy relationship, she helped me see that we are human & sometimes attraction just happens. It's what you do with it that really matters. In both cases, I stopped speaking with the other person unless absolutely necessary, and avoided all situations where I might be around them, and the feeling left me- fast.

If you truly love your wife you wouldn't be having those thoughts. It don't matter what age you marry. You made a commitment and declared that this was the person for you. This would devastate me if my husband felt the way you do. His only 24 and I'm alot older. If you wasnt ready to settle down then you shouldn't have. Trust me. The grass isn't greener on the other side you know and don't be one to want your cake and eat it. Look closer to home to get what you need. If your no longer in love with your wife then please don't string her along. Surely she deserves that much.

You shouldn't be going to other women for anything other than very basic friendships. How would you feel if your wife was going to other men the same way you are with other women?

You would think what if even if you waited till you were older. Normal

I fully understand what you are feeling and I'm a happily married woman. I think as long as you remember your vows and have that never ending love towards your wife...you should be able to work through your "what if" moments. Also, have you ever thought about talking to your wife about your feelings? It might help. You will get some ppl commenting who are truly understanding but as you can see already, some ppl feel the need to slither on their bellies and call your names..don't let those types of ppl get to you.

You should think about why you married your wife and hopefully those reasons are way too important to you to desire other women. However, people slip up on occasion but just make double sure that these thoughts don't continue into something worse. If it becomes that much of a problem, then you should talk to your wife about it. She can help you more than I can even if it hurts her to hear your thoughts.

That is a typical male response to committment. Most men live in some sort of "Richard Sherman" fantasy whereby they wanna bang a planet of hot chicks and keep Mr. Johnson busy impregnating as many young women as possible. That is just the way nature made MOST of you. This stereotype does not apply to some of you, but, you are the exception and not the rule. My comment would be that you married the woman that you are with for a REASON. If you wanted to be free to run around and fuck the world, why get married??? Think about your marriage vows and try to keep them because you have a REASON for being with this woman you are with; right? If you can't keep your vows, get a divorce before you knock your wife up and make things more complicated for both of you.

I know from experience that it's just a phase, don't put your wife through that experience, you'll only regret it in the end.

If you feel bad about it you probably still love her yeah it's normal

Wow. Thats tough, there is no right answer because its a matter of opinion. I think its normal that you didn't marry the person you really want to spend you life with...so young...do you LOVE her still?

You never should have gotten married then. You don't love her that is not love!... Oh and you are a scumbag!!!