Is it normal to be mad if my boyfriend comes home late?

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so i get mad if my boyfriend comes home late from work. half an hour like right now! so he supposed to be here by twleve thirty its one! wtf? i dnt think im wrong especially when i specified today for him to come home right after work cuz i dont feel good and i think going out will help.he said ok now im here waiting again..he doesnt have a phone so i cant call. it pisses me off even if hes ten minutes lat3. am i wrong? sheesh i want what i want if i say twelve im there eleven fifty nine! aggravated!!!:-(

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    Ohhhhhhh, you're one of those girls :/

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    • savemefrommyself
      12 years ago

      hey ima good girl:-) i just would at least appreciate i call if ur gunna be late i mean i had to reset a reservation a made cus he had a beer after work and i get mad to myself but i dnt yell and scream u kno? idk theres alot more problems i have with him so i guess nowadays everythong he does to aggravate me effects me ten times more then usual...

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  • munkeemurder
    12 years ago

    You shouldnt be getting upset with him... theres a good chance youll end up driving him away. I use to get like that and all it did was cause fights. Maybe you should invest in a xbox 360 and pick up some shooting games... before you know it, he'll be the one waiting for you!

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    • savemefrommyself
      12 years ago

      hey thats pretty good never thought of that! i wanna get that dance thing..lol hey thanks to all u guys u send comments without bieng rude and judgmental..ima good person just dont have to many people to talk to in my life about serious things...strange how a stranger helps your spirit feel better and u dont even know them....i can honestly say i asked a question on google and it sent me here....by accidentbi suppose but it helps..thanku monkee i thi k im going to het me an xbox kinnect!

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      • munkeemurder
        12 years ago

        Hey its not a problem.

        I know what ya mean about talking to someone about serious things to. I recently in the past few months found someone that i can talk to about any and everything. : ) Just try to think outside the box sometimes.

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  • ShaNaeNae
    12 years ago

    What??

    Sometimes we can't control when we get out of work. Maybe he got held up 10/15 minutes.

    Do you have a job?...

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    • Saycheese
      12 years ago

      Agree, that's too clingy.

      Get a job if you don't have one. You'll get your own money to go out and see what it's like having a job. There's been time I've been held at work an hour longer.

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      • savemefrommyself
        12 years ago

        yea but its not that and i know it..when he came home he even told me he had a drink after work...im sick.of it...and yes i had a job i quit a week and three days ago...im looking maybe thatts what it is not used to bieng home??

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        • Saycheese
          12 years ago

          Yeah maybe thats it. :) Just keep yourself as busy as possible before he comes home.

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          • savemefrommyself
            12 years ago

            man its so hard we have so many problems but...i guess this is what i choose...howd u guys find out about this..i still dnt fully u derstand what this is and how to fully use it.....how lng have u been on here

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            • Saycheese
              12 years ago

              Yep, just become more of an independent woman. I love spending time a lone truthfully, but doesn't mean I don't love my friends and family.

              But you do learn a lot on this website even though there can be some pretty strange messed up people on here and a**holes too.

              But I just had a question about a guy that I was stressing over "too much" and found this website.

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  • Wierdmyself
    12 years ago

    You boyfriend, has a life to live... if it don't agree with yours... move on. It's not worth any heartache or hurt over a job he has (it also changes when he's supporting you, unless you have a job yourself).

    However, I understand why you are upset, and you are right to miss him when he's gone. When I was trying to woo a girl, it hurt my feelings when she wouldn't call or do anything with me.

    If I were you, I'd make cell phone his future gift.

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    • savemefrommyself
      12 years ago

      ye thats not gunna happen in theb eggining of our relationship he had a phone and i didnt he was rude even more distant..and always texting! i cuaght him texting girls just friends but im nt down with that. now i have the phone and he soesnt and i try to not be like hii.m..but its easier for my brain now to deal with him not having a phone...im a thi ker and always on top of things it sucks and rules all at once its hard to get one over on me...but that comes with lotsa stress .its like they say would u rather be in the dark not knowing things?or knowing things and bieng miserable...i just like knowing

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      • cryme29
        11 years ago

        Anyway are use still together

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      • cryme29
        11 years ago

        i am in the exact situation drives me nuts and was in the exact situation with the phone we both just share a phone now and he doesn't need to take it with him he has a phone he can ring me off at work and so on but the late thing, i got pissed off if it was 10-20 minutes late if he was meant to be home at 12.30am, one day he was meant to be home then and i woke up at 2am and he still wasn't home so i sat up freaking out and he got home at 3.30am He was on his knees apologizing and let me have my yell at him haha then we went to sleep but after that time i just dont give a crap as much now and that is due to losing any trust to any promises he makes to me i dont believe any of it now so i dont care as much and i told him that is what happens when he promises to be home at a time and turns up 3 hours late without calling me. Guys can be so ridiculous at time with cell phones and so on the worst ones are the ones that keep there pictures folder locked they need to be dumped straight away.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Are you his commander in the army? Or his jailer?

    I'd be more worried that he'd been in an accident.

    You really need to get busy with other things until he turns up coz I'm sure he's not getting a warm reception when he does get home. You need to ask yourself would you rush home to you?! His poor feet must be dragging him slowly towards home, instead of skipping or running.

    Poor man will wise up some day and go to the pub for the whole weekend!

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    • savemefrommyself
      12 years ago

      see u dont understand..and were not in england its called a bar! by the way were all tiires at the end of the day and no i wouldnt run home to me id fly...hes got it made a warm meal slippers and a beer waiting for him.i cook clean and notto be cocky but im pretty damn cute too>lol...gbut really i think its because were neighbors and always together i can sometimes get what he feels when im out and he wants me home its like shhiit go away..but at least a call

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Uhoh you have got men all wrong!!

        Actually I do live in the UK - N. Ireland to be precise so you can call it a bar or a pub! OK so you have tickets on yourself that you are a great catch but you posted this coz you have an issue with anger / possessiveness.

        How long have you been in this relationship? I assume it's not too long as he's still doing it his way and you're still annoyed.

        Anyway, although he might like coming home to a domestic goddess it's not the be all and end all for men. Like all others, he values the companionship of other men - or even people who are good fun.

        Just ask how often you two laugh together, will you laugh when he gets in?

        No! That's why he's not rushing.

        A man will rush anywhere he's likely to have a laugh with his mates. He can always reheat his dinner or have sex with you a few hours later than predicted.

        Lighten up!!
        I don't cook or clean and my husband has rushed home for over 23 years!! But I see my job as to run a happy home full of laughter - not many men get that on a daily basis. Most women nag them to death - and you don't want him to see you as his mother!!

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        • savemefrommyself
          12 years ago

          i dont want him to see me as his mother but weve been together for over a year and we laid out the way we were in relationships. he want a woman barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen...and im ok with that to an extent.our lives are probably different im way younger than you i can guarentee that never been married no kid and my man has an alcohol problem...so its completely different i wouldnt expect u to understand he has it made...and i do need to change up alil with certain things but he needs to realize what hes giot til its gone..but so do i right?

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          • joybird
            12 years ago

            No-one would ever believe me but ... my husband would love all women banned from the bar and (thinks) he would like me barefoot and in the kitchen. However, that's not my style so it was either put up or shut up (for him). I'm fiercely independent and contrary so I can't have anyone telling me what to do or not to do. So maybe your bf has told you that's what he thinks he wants but in reality he's proving to you that he hasn't really thought this out. He's not rushing home to his ideal woman - so maybe that ideal woman has become a boring doormat to him?! Just an idea!

            You are younger pet, and more naive than I ever was but you have explained more fully your anxiety when you explain that he has an alcohol problem. As you are unable to cure him, I'd start to live my life exactly the way I want and not by his rules anymore. That might just be enough to smarten him up and realise what he might lose.

            You are a gem coz thousands of us would never even get involved with a guy that had an addiction of any sort.

            I hope it works out for you but if you're being neglected / abused in the future, show him the door and make him beg his way back into your affections.

            He knows you can do much better than him which is why he wants you 'safely tucked away at home'.

            Live your young life to the full and laugh every day!!

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    Well it just sounds like as other people have said that you just need to keep yourself busy so you're not thinking about it and getting angry. Also, I bet you not having a job the last week hasn't helped either...were you like this when you had a job too?

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Talk to him about this. Try not to sound angry though but rather sad. You miss him..nothing wrong with that. I know plenty of guys and girls that feel the same way about their partners! No, I don't think you're clingy at all. Hope he'll listen to you and try his best to be there for you, take care!

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    Maybe he doesnt have a watch?

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    • savemefrommyself
      12 years ago

      hahah that was funny ur silly

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      • salvi01
        12 years ago

        not to scare you and make you think I'm a stalker (LOL) but i've been reading your stories about your problems with your bf... And, you remind me soo much of myself. I used to be jealous, insecure, get angry at bf for coming home half an hour late, or even talking to his ex..It would cause fights and all because I was so immature. My then bf now husband is also much older than me, so of course I was immature. The good news is that IF YOU WANT IT, it can get better. you have to work hard at getting rid of that jealousy and immature behavior. It's a hard process but it's worth it!! If i could write a book and tell you how I did it, I would! Best of Luck!

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  • lufa
    12 years ago

    tell him to get a cell phone

    ya I don't like it when people don't show up when expected

    but you have to be reasonable too-unless you had plans

    waiting 30 mins to an hour is not that bad.

    after than then you should get worried or mad.

    still if you don't like it, give him an ultimatum,

    if he keeps doing it then dump him and find a bf who is punctual

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