Is it normal to be mad at your husband...

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Here's my story: I am a stay-at-home mom with several small children. I am also a housekeeper for my husbands company, because we travel a lot. I work hard all day, cooking, cleaning, and being a mother.

Today I finally got to go somewhere away from the house. I don't have a vehicle so I don't usually get out except on weekends. We went and did some shopping, in which I stayed in the car with the kids, because my husband doesn't like to take them in public places. I feel like he is ashamed of us or something.

One place we stopped was a mall. He said he was going to get the nosepiece replaced on his favorite sunglasses. I asked as he left if he would look for some for me, as my old pair was falling apart, and I needed some good ones because my eyes are sensitive to light.

Well, he goes in, and we wait in the car for around 45 minutes while he is doing whatever. He finally comes back out with his purchases. He hands me the bag as he gets in, so I start looking thru it. Inside is a small lens cleaning kit, and some new sunglasses! Peeking at the receipt is see that they are almost $200! I thought "Wow! He really got me some!" Then he reaches over and takes them out and says "I got these for Paul, do you think he'll like 'em?".....

Turns out the lens cleaning kit was for me, he even chose it special with a pink cloth. I'm struggling between jealousy, and extreme hurt right now. This is just one small example, but he does this all the time. I'm so upset I could scream!!!!

Is this normal? I think I'm going to go crazy!!

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  • wreckd
    13 years ago

    Ohhhh no no no. That's messed up. I take crap from my husband sometimes but sometimes you have to open your mouth and tell him when you feel that you are unappreciated. Is he having sex with Paul? Is Paul raising his kids? Then why would he take the time to get those for Paul and not his hard-working wife? I'm sure if you talk to your husband he will realize his mistake. If not, I would take him to marriage counseling because you and those kids should come first.

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    • dappled
      13 years ago

      I'm with wreckd, and I think we both want to know who Paul is.

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      • DefinitelyNotNormal89
        13 years ago

        Snap

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    • TheLogicalJew
      13 years ago

      Brava! You speak well on this, that is certain.

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  • ThatChick28
    12 years ago

    Ur crazy! Don't let him push u around like that! And WTF??? He doesn't like to take his kids out in public? That has to b 1 or 2 things...either he's an asshole or ur kids r extremely misbehaved; and u don't have a car? Do u have ur license? I've known a lot of women who just rely on their men to drive them everywhere which isn't good. He needs to know that u'd b fine w/o him. An if he knows that and STILL acts like he does then u need to get a fucking job and leave his ass! But don't b lazy about it. Ur pretty dumb for letting it get this way, he's already figured out how much he can push u around and it's gonna b really hard to get some authority but u better do it or ull b dealing w/ this for the rest of ur life and ur kids will b raise with these morals. Good job dumbass x.x...better make the next move.

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  • baby.girl
    13 years ago

    It's normal that ur mad but it's not normal that he does this:/

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  • cagedbirdscreams
    13 years ago

    nope sorry dear not normal. i take crap from my hubby but eventually hell apologize or give me a small token of his affection once he realizes hes been an ass. i too am guilty of the same. so im with wreckd. now questions! whos paul? why would he not want to take his family in public? does he have a mood disorder?

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  • Caps90
    13 years ago

    Wait why do you let him make you stay in the car 45 min. with your kids because he doesn't like them out in the public? Why doesnt he like them out in the public? Why do you not have a car? You need your freedom too! You seriously need to evaluate this situation and take a stand for your rights and your kids rights.

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  • starburst
    13 years ago

    No way I would put up with that!!!!
    Talk to him and if that doesn't work cut him off from sex!! Maybe he will get the point then unless he is having sex with Paul or some one else.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    13 years ago

    I think he's fucking Paul. 200 dollars? That must a been some awesome fudge-packin. Lol

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  • TyLee
    13 years ago

    No not normal that is messed up!

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    He's taking you for granted. You should be appreciated for all of the hard work you do. You need to have a log conversation alone about this together. He needs to recognize that you are the foundation of his family.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    Wreckd is right! Is Paul his significant other or are you? You need to talk to him, and make it clear that you haven't been getting a lot out of the relationship. Even if it's something as small as a pair of sunglasses, you and your family should come first, before Paul.

    And one day, you should make him sit in the car with the kid's so you can go shop. And you should also ask him why you guy's can never go in as a family. That's ridiculous.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yes I think this is normal, you's are his family so he shouldn't be ashamed! And also I'd be hurt aswell because it seems he's treating his wife like a maid and not how she should be treated and to buy someone else something is out of order you should come first! - hope it made you feel better:)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I would NOT even be married to this clown. My man recognizes my importance. If he treated me like this, he knows the bag would go sailing right out the window into oncoming traffic. Let "Paul" haul his ass out there and get it. And, if he bitched to me about, "Are you crazy?!!" his ass would be next. Your problem is that you made a bad marriage choice in the first place. Divorce him and find someone who treats you like a queen.

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