Is it normal to be mad at my boyfriend for this?

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Me and my boyfriend started dating in December and I just found out that he was still having sex with his fuck buddy that he was seeing before he met me. The last time he had sex with her was in January. He told me that he didn't think our relationship was serious in the beginning and wasn't sure if he really loved me or not. He said that once he knew he loved me he told her he wouldn't have sex with her anymore and hasn't cheated on me with her or any other girl. He said he didn't do anything wrong but yet I still feel so hurt. He said I never have to worry about it happening now because he loves me more than anything and would never cheat on me. Is this normal and should I just accept it and move on or should I be worried about it?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Well, it's always nice to have a piece of ass as back up, if the one you're doing doesn't work out.
    I think you know you can never trust this guy completely. Even married with a couple of kids, you've gotta know he'll have a secret bank account and an exit strategy. He's certainly nobody I'd want to get in too deep with.

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  • BlueReverence
    9 years ago

    If he had sex with her after he kissed you, dump him. If you two were JUST dating, he has the right to explore and test the waters. But once you and he have an understanding of ANY degree of commitment... he must have abstained from physical contact with anyone else.

    If he's free and clear of any wrong doing as spelled out above, but youre still hurt, ask him to wait 60 days before you two have sex. If he is faithful, and he can wait 60 days to have sex with you, then you need to forgive him and feel safe with your emotions!!

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    I don't know him so I can't tell you his intentions. But I can tell you its normal not to be trusting of him. And when he cheated did you guys have the relationship talk? DTR That makes a big difference

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He never told me about it because he didn't think it was cheating because he thought I just wanted sex and didn't think our relationship was serious when I did. I just found out last night when he said I could go through his phone :/

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      • pixie44
        9 years ago

        So you guys never said lets be boyfriend / girlfriend?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I don't remember when but he did ask me that and I think he was still having sex with this girl about a week after that before he got rid of her I'm not sure though I don't remember the exact day he asked me out but he said he didn't think we were serious for the 1/2 week after he did ask me out.

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          • pixie44
            9 years ago

            That's fucked up You have every right to be suspicious now. But maybe he's serious and has changed you never know. Give him 1 more chance and if he fucks up again he's not worth your time and you deserve someone better and more mature. (:

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    You might want to start discussing morals, expectations and what commitment means to each of you so you can decide if your beliefs are a match for one another.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He wants go be with me and only me for the rest of his life and that's what I'd want but I'm just upset that he was having sex with someone else at the beginning of our relationship because "he thought we weren't serious and thought I only wanted sex" but I thought we were actually dating that whole time

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      • Freedom_
        9 years ago

        Sounds like bs to me. 3 months doesn't give much time to make that sort of decision. You sure he's not just telling you what you want to hear?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I know it's true he loves me so much we have a crazy connection together and I love him just as much. I want to get over it but I'm really sensitive I know he would never cheat on me but it stills bugs me.

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  • tgf2mx5
    9 years ago

    Youve just lost your trust on him. I think its time to move on. You better dump him or he would see you as a doormat.

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  • hootiemomma
    9 years ago

    I'd break up. This man is not trustworthy if you are looking for serious comitment.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    It's normal to be mad, unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it. Trust me, speaking from experience, it's best just not to think about it :/

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