Is it normal to be loving and nice, but have no friends?

People take kindness as weakness, and they dont appreciate anything that is given to them freely. So if you are nice and respectful right from the get-go, they will not appreciate you and assume you are trying to be friendly cause you need them to like you. If you adopt an attitude that people are lucky to get know you at all and not everyone is someone you would consider befriending, you will begin to see peoples attitude towards you change into one that desires your friendship. Unfortunately, you gotta be cruel to be kind, its sick, but thats the way it is...

Try not loving so much some people get freaked out by that sort of thing

"Everyone's friend is no one's friend."(Italian proverb)

enough said

Find people with the same problem, I'm sure you'll hit it off

Im the exact same way its completely normal us nice people just have to stick together ;)

I completely understand because I'm the same way. It used to be awful, but it's been getting better as I talk to new people and branch out to others that I never would of before. I've also joined some teams and clubs, which has helped alot. You have to come out of your comfort zone. It's hard at first, but once you do, you will become much happier.

I feel like this too. I'm a little shy at first but certainly not mean or antisocial. I've been going through a lot lately so I just figured I've learned some awkward tendencies or something that others can somehow pick up on.
Since leaving college though making freinds has been more difficult. It doesn't seem to just happen anymore.

You have no friends because you want friends and are contuingingly making yourself seem like a little bit h or assclown. Ever known a dude that seemed to try too hard and you shunned him from the group or ignored him. That's the assclown, wanting things so hard you compensate yourself. Understand, the reason people don't like this is becaae it's selfish, your are more selfish and untrue to yourself than anyone because you are only worried about "me me me" listen to yourself, accept yourself, and be who you are. If someones a dick, tell them why, then you will be with all that is and enjoy te splendor of true friendship

ask questions. people love to talk about themselves

Almost all people are shit. Why would you want to deal with them anyways? Having friends is not worth the drama.

Yes, I always try to talk to people. I don't know if I'm just weird, or what. *sigh*

Do u try to talk to them?

Maybe your too friendly and freak some people out... Just a suggestion

yes it is. even moreso these days.

im a nice guy but i have trust issues. i cant make friends now as i will be worried about them hurting me, stealing from me and lying to me.

if i get remarried i will hope my wife has few mates. dont need them.

Hey...I only have 2...

That reminds me!

At school we played " Mafia ". We were all like "Who is it?" "I dont know..." "Omg! It's you!"
Some people called my sister and i "the silent killers"...

most people only want to be friends with you because you are popular or they gain something from being friends with you in some way. I spent ages being nice to people and all I got back were comments like "go away noone cares" etc

I know exactly how you feel i am the same and i also have no friends. sorry to hear it isnt just me

I would say I'm a nice person too, and although I make friends, I find I have trouble keepiong them. I have two close friends and I have found that we are close because we have alot in commen in terms of how we think, interests etc. You need to find someone who is similar ro you in some way, once you have found one, then you will find many.

By the way those people who are mean don't really have friends, just bum chums.

This is not an easy question to answer because I'm not you. But I can suggest a few things. Do you think you've been trying too hard to please everybody? Are you hanging out with the wrong people who just don't appreciate what a nice person you are?

I like cheese cake at any time of the day.