Is it normal to be like this?

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I posted before something very similar. I find it very hard to be tactile towards my family and friends. My Children went to live with their Dad in 94 when my youngest was 3. Now whenever I say goodnight to my Grandchildren I kiss them goodnight but am starting to not like it at all, I don't show it towards them. I don't like hugging etc towards any family member or friends. The eldest is 8 and the next one is 3. I have 2 younger Grandchildren who I am happy to give hugs to etc. I am just wondering if it is to do with when my Children went to live with their dad as the youngest was 3 at the time. As I said I don't show it towards them and if I have to hug etc I will but feel icky about it. I didn't like kisses and hugs from my Parents when I was younger either. Please no nastiness or bitchiness as I want to change but the whole thing makes my skin crawl.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Wow. My Mother is like you and it has really fucked me up.

    You need to force your self to be affectionate to your children, eventually it will seem normal and you will start to like it.

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  • Pika-girl
    10 years ago

    Please don't begin childhood depression! Start to actually love them! Childhood depression: the child starts to think "Why doesn't anyone truly like me?"

    Believe me, I had it a few times myself!

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    • Lottiemouse
      10 years ago

      I didn't say anything about childhood depression at all, don't assume.......And how dare you, you don't know me so don't judge. I didn't say anything about people liking me. I had a great childhood. Don't pass a comment on this unless you have something nice to say. My childhood was good because I was only ever around other kids when at school, rest of the time I was on my own which I loved. So don't judge me, I could assume stuff about you, but I am not like that or as rude.

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      • Pika-girl
        10 years ago

        Ah! Oops! Sorry! I didn't mean to! Sorry, sorry, sooooo sorry! Eeeeeeek! Are you mad at me? Ahhhhhh!

        I'm sorry... I get so nervous when I'm in situations like this! I'm so sorry! Like I said, I wasn't really raised properly, so please excuse my rude behavior!

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        • Pika-girl
          10 years ago

          I don't EXACTLY know the meanings of stuff, so I just start to assume... Please forgive me.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I think that you could try to make some compromises with yourself.

    Allow yourself to not kiss them, but accept their hugs and hug them when they show up and hug them when they go home.

    Spend time with them in other ways.

    Like, my mums mother has always been SUPER affectionate and will jump us all any chance she gets, lol. My mums father on the other hand isn't like that at ALL. I have never questioned his love ...

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