Is it normal to be left out a lot?

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In middle school I had a great group of friends. High school hit and we all seperated. Ever since then I've been trying to get close with people. I like being alone but it can get old at times. I hang out with a group of guys a lot but I wish I had a good group of friends. New Years Eve I spent by myself. I didn't really mind. But I'm upset that all of my guy friends went to a party with girls that I'm kind of friends with. Why didn't they invite me? I feel like it's so hard for me to make friends and fit in. How can I make high school a better experiance?

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  • The.Secret.History
    12 years ago

    Be more assertive! Next time, ask your friends what the plans are and fit yourself right into it! If you continue to feel this way, maybe it is time to find a new group of friends. Good luck!

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Do you ask your friends to hang out? You may want to ask someone. Then plan when you're gonna get together & what you're gonna do. That's what I do. Good luck!

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    • Browniegirl3
      12 years ago

      Ya this break I've been trying to do that. It's working out pretty well. Thanks!

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    This is really sad. It sounds like me!

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    • Browniegirl3
      11 years ago

      I think its a self esteem issue.I think that most people desperately want to fit in and try to do what they think others would want them to say or act. But in reality people don't like that. It's people pleasing. Work on yourself and spend time getting to know who you are and accepting all of yourself. Read Be Yourself, Everybody Else is Taken by Mike Robbins. Awesome book. I don't know you so I could totally be wrong. But I found that I was trying way to hard to fit in. I came off as uncomfortable and anxious. It made other people uncomfortable and anxious. I learned that you need to love and accept yourself before others do. If you don't accept yourself then chances are people won't accept you. Hope this helps.

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      • 1000yrVampireKing
        11 years ago

        Well I could choose to either follow the crowd and do drugs, commit crimes and take liquor and money from my parents. That or choose not to get in trouble and go to school and be a loser. I made a choice to be responsible. I think it was a better choice.

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        • 1000yrVampireKing
          11 years ago

          I am not in school anymore though.

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          • Browniegirl3
            11 years ago

            That's good that you chose to be responsible.Did you drop out of high school or college?

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            • 1000yrVampireKing
              11 years ago

              I never went to college. I had the option to drop out of high school but I did not want to be home that much. Since my family honestly could not stand me and my friends were the ones keeping me sane. At least at that time they were. Anyways after school ended my parents broke up and I got kicked out of the house. Was not really prepared for it. I do work now though.

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  • Browniegirl3
    12 years ago

    My friends that are girls are not good friends. It's so hard to find good friends.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Try to make some female friends. The males gfs feel threatened by you so they aren't allowed to invite you.

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  • Browniegirl3
    12 years ago

    Ya I am so paranoid about how others percieve me. I try not to care but I think its a little insecurity. I think that I'm scared of judgment. Everyone wants to be liked by everyone. I'm working on accepting myself for who I am and then not caring what others think. Most teenagers do anything to fit in and are too self centered to recognize how other people feel. We all think that we are the problem but its just high schoolers and insecure people.

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    Everytime I take myself out, they pull me back in!
    I have been waiting a long time to use this sentence. I just love it.
    Plenty of money, drugs, you just have to let them know there's a lot in it if they give you a good time. (what is it I just said?I must me out of my mind)
    By the way, that is the best way to have a great time.
    Like: mom! You have to leave the house for a while.
    And she was like: what?
    And I was like: yeah, I got some people coming home tomorrow. You have to leave.
    And she was like: where do I have to go?
    And I was like: can't you just buy an airplain ticket and go, wherever the hell you want? I need the house. For, at least twenty four hours. I won't take a no as an answer. I won't. I just won't. Seriously.

    Old me. I miss that guy.

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  • bigguy2010
    12 years ago

    I was never invited to parties because all of my friends knew that I didn't drink. The only time I was invited was because the hostess wanted me to bake some cookies.

    And yes... I am a nerd.

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    • i.eat.rapists
      12 years ago

      You sound nice. I'd invite you to my Internet party!

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  • Browniegirl3
    12 years ago

    My guy friends are really nice. The only thing is that they have their own little clique and I wish I were in it too. I just want to have friends that I can share stuff with and be close with. One of them assumed that I was invited and asked me the next day why I didn't come. I told him that I wasn't invited. He said that he should have checked with me that night and picked me up. But the girls are hanging out with them and not inviting me. Should I try to get close with them or just ask them to include me next time? Thank you for all of the good advice!

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    The friends you do have, are they the right friends? If you like to spend a lot of time alone, are you giving them the impression that you don't want to hang out with them?

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    • Browniegirl3
      12 years ago

      No I don't think they realize that I don't get out much. I've been making plans but it would be nice to have a good group of girl friends.

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