Is it normal to be kicked out directly after i turn 18?

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I just turned 18, and my mom lost her job and is moving. In this process she decides to tell me that i have to move out in two weeks. I have a job and have the capability to support myself, although it will not be easy. Im a normal teenager, i wasnt the best in school but i did graduate with a 2.5gpa. I bought my first car alone, paid for insurance, gas, etc, my own clothes, basically been near independent since i turned 16 when i got a job.

I look around at my friends and other peers to see that they have no worries.They live with there parents no problem dont have jobs and are going to school at a slow easy pace (which is paid by thier parents).

So my question is, is it normal?
Is it normal to be just kicked out out of blue just because my mother sees a oppourtunity to get rid of me. Is it normal for other people to have it so easy while i have to bust my ass to have a bed to sleep in.

Or am i just complaining?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    My best friend was kicked out when he turned 18, but it was because his parents didn't agree with his lifestyle. I know a few people who've experienced the same but it isn't normal. I'm sorry and good luck

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  • boehawk
    10 years ago

    She's not so much kicking you out since she's moving too , she's just not taking you along with her . A 2 bedroom costs more than a 1 bedroom and the deposit is usually equal to the rent . Also if you move out later she might not be able to afford the rent of a 2 bedroom or find or even want a roommate . She might think your able to be on your own and you'll do better in life the sooner you stand on your own 2 feet with out her helping you . She may be ready to start the next part of her life with out being mom as one of the biggest parts of it and is seeing the time being ripe to do it now with all the other changes going on. She may be overwhelmed with all the things that are happening because she lost her job and is only able to take care of her self right now and feels you can make it with out her . Try to sit down with her and let her know how you feel and ask her how she's dealing with all the changes that are and will be happening . Hope you both can find away to make this change move your relationship with each other to a adult level and come out stronger then before .

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    • beforeifeel
      10 years ago

      Thank you for your reply very thought out. But my mother is still being a mom. I have a 15 year old sister. Also my mom and i are not very close, we are two different people with different ways of doing things and different ways of thinking. We nevee really butt heads because she doesnt confront people, while i do. so if i sit down with her to talk, it wont go far and she wont reveal much. Its just who she is.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Offer to pay keep if you're not already then you're paying your way but at a cheaper rate

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    It's might be less common now than it was decades ago. My grandmother told me when I was 16 that I was very lucky because, her father kicked all of his sons out at 16. When I turned 18, I was relieved to know that I wasn't going to be kicked out. Had I been kicked out, I would've either been homeless or I would've had to move into my grandmother's house. I had no means of supporting myself and still don't because, my focus is to get a college education. I don't have the time right now. Even if I got the kind of job that has been suggested to me, I wouldn't be able to support myself enough to move out.

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  • Brownblowout
    9 years ago

    Can you live in the car?

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  • gegute
    9 years ago

    Well, why don't you talk to her openly and ask the reasons behind her decision? It could clarify things for you two and help not to hold grudge against each other.

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  • [email protected]
    10 years ago

    Just get your ass the fuck out already.

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  • slutzombie
    10 years ago

    she's teaching you how to be an adult. she lost her job so she clearly couldn't support you right now, even if she wanted to.

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  • Nikkibitch
    10 years ago

    It's obviously a reality to you! I think most families do not kick out their children at 18 but it apparently happened to you! This is a MORAL situation! I think cruel that she did that but if I were you I would try my hardest to a make a living on your and be in charge of your life rather than relaying on your mom because if she kicked you out of her house who knows what else she will do! It's better if you just leave and get output of that environment!

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  • ScarletTrust
    10 years ago

    I think that's horrible to kick your own child out after they turn 18! I don't think it's true love, but best of luck to you!

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