Is it normal to be just good friends with an ex

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So I've been with my boyfriend for three and a half years and I love him and still want to be with him. My ex just recently moved back to town ( we never had a serious relationship or anything) but he was the one who took my virginity ( I haven't seen him in five years. He's married and has a kid) He randomly messaged me on Facebook and wanted Someone to chill with. I talked to my boyfriend first be said fine but now we've been chilling all the time. Nothings going on I just feel like he's becoming a good friend but now my boyfriend seems to be finding it kind of weird and is questioning me and getting mad. IS it normal to become just good friends with an ex that took your virginity.

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    I think it is, unless he has other intentions.. maybe your boyfriend thinks he has some kind of plot to get you back in his head... idk... theres usually a root to all our problems

    if youre asking if he should be getting mad over this ask yourself that.. what are your thoughts about it.. if he could read your mind do you think it would be ok if he got mad or are you just innocently being a friend and not thinking about the what if's or i wonders..

    but if thats not the case maybe youre the one who should be getting mad because he should trust you and you asked him if he was ok with it in the first place

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  • Lordsofdogtown
    12 years ago

    Not when he's married and has a kid. It just looks wrong

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  • Mel
    12 years ago

    Hmmm...I recall a song by Biz Markie!

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  • 1Swagger2
    12 years ago

    no. hell no.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    Just make sure you pay more attention to your bf and tell him exactly what goes on. Any bf should get jealous when their gf is close with another guy even if they trust you. It shows they care and part of them is actually more hurt that you would go out and seek comfort in another man, in a sense.

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  • sparky555
    12 years ago

    That's not the issue though. They aren't really together right now and he just needs someone to chill with because he doesn't know anyone.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    You need to talk to his wife, and make sure it's okay.

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    Not common. I understand why your bf would be angry most situations like this aren't for friends.

    But I think you're normal. Don't deal with the questioning have a conversation.

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  • sparky555
    12 years ago

    Also he's been going through some shit with his wife. He just got out of rehab and doesn't know anyone. And usually he only comes and chills with me and my boyfriend. I just wanna know if my boyfriend should be getting mad over this

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