Is it normal to be jealous under these circumstances?

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My daughter has a boyfriend and they have been together for several months. She asked me a question the other day that I cannot answer so thought id turn to you guys for help, she wants to know if it is normal for her to get highly jealous when he is spending time with his friends when they are having relationship issues? His friends have apparently mocked her on more than one occasion, mostly to her face and (seen by myself) they have tried to pull her relationship apart, so much so they had to separate over the holidays, now she finds herself being in a relationship in secret and she has told me that he has not told his friends of the situation, all I can say is there's a lot of growing up that needs to be done but need an answer for the main question!
Jim

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Yes, it's normal. And her boyfriend sounds like an asshole.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    For you as a father, I'm sorry to say, but there's not much you can do. Kids need to make mistakes and grow from them. It's important for you to be there for her when things don't fall through though. My suggestion to her is to do what feels right. No, this situation isn't good. The boyfriend and his friends are obviously very immature. If this were an adult relationship I would ask her what the hell she's thinking and to get the heck out of there! But as a young immature relationship, telling her this wouldn't make a big difference. Not to mock younger people, it's just that this stage in life, people tend to think that their relationship is worth more than their happiness. His friends aren't going to change, and she's not going to dump him because we told her to. But I gaurantee you she won't be dating him in 3 years. It's a situation where you just have to let it ride out. You're right, there's a lot of growing up to do. There's also a lot to learn for the both of them.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    She needs to make a simple and stern statement to her boyfriend that his friends, whether they like her or not, need to respect his decision to be with her as well as respect her for his sake. And stay the hell out of their relationship in general! As for secrecy, there's no need for that. A relationship is not a group decision, it's an agreement between two people. There's no reason to hide a personal choice.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    You are someone's father and can't answer this question? God help us.

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    • Justsomejerk
      11 years ago | pl

      He's probably never been a teenage girl in a secret relationship with some d-bag.

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  • Dr.sreekumar
    11 years ago

    Everybody knows that if you are loving a man/woman with strong mental attachment we will get bored if she or he is not with us that is the real love. That guy is not spending too much time means they are not at all too close mentally. what is the meaning in that love ? Nothing I say , forget about that love , time wasting

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Jealousy isn't a real thing.

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