Is it normal to be jealous of random hookups my boyfriend has had?

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My boyfriend used to sleep around a lot and sometimes I randomly think about the other girls that he's been with. We were really good friends before dating so I know far too much about most of the girls. I know he loves me now and isn't with anyone else and he never talks to any of the other girls. I just can't help but think about those other people he's been with. I don't know if its normal to dwell so much about his past when we are talking so much about our future.

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  • curious.girl18
    11 years ago

    It's completely normal to be a little jealous but you can't let it ruin your relationship.

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  • pinhsa
    11 years ago

    It is completely normal, but even though it is difficult try not to think about it. You will be much happier if you don't.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal to be jealous and a little insecure. Make sure you don't hold it against him though, and don't give him a hard time over things he doesn't do anymore.

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    • ovadamoon
      11 years ago

      He doesn't know how insanely jealous I am about those other girls. He knows I get pretty jealous I just haven't ever told him that I ever even think about the old girls. It isn't a conversation I feel like having yet.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    And how many people have you slept with prior to dating him? It's not normal to hold someone's history against them. It's probably better for your relationship he's been through that hookup stage already, much worse when someone has never had that many partners and has a mid life crisis where they feel like they missed out when they had the chance.

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    • ovadamoon
      11 years ago

      He is actually the only person that I have ever been with.

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        Ah, that makes a lot more sense then. Honestly the best thing you can do is just let it go... it was in the past and obviously none of those girls were anything that fantastic because he's with you, not them. :)

        Honestly hookup sex is generally kinda meh. o.o It's still fun sometimes, but it's much better with actual intimacy. So you're better off than they were anyway. ;P If that makes you feel any better.

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        Oh and I was kinda hungover when I made that comment.... I meant it's normal to feel that way but don't hold it against him. XD

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        • ovadamoon
          11 years ago

          Thanks! I for sure don't hold it against him. Its just something thats hard for me to get over.

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