Is it normal to be jealous of my ex?

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I'm jealous of my ex boyfriend. I don't miss him or want him back or anything of that nature. In fact, I'm in a happy relationship about to be married. I'm just so angry that my ex got everything he wanted and I feel like he doesn't deserve it. We both have the same degree from the same university but he makes about $60,000 more than I do while I can't even manage to find a permanent job. He has the brand new truck he always wanted, the cute little Asian girlfriend (I don't care so much about that) that he's always wanted and goes on vacations to different countries. Meanwhile, my fiance and I are struggling. It just irks me because he was always so greedy and money hungry. Why do good things happen to people who don't deserve them? Who am I to determine that I guess, right? Anyway, I find myself looking him up on facebook every now and then to see what else has gone totally great for him. Apparently, he's up for ANOTHER promotion!! Ugh!! All I want is a job where I don't have to struggle...I don't have to make 90,000/year like him. I know looking him up makes me insanely jealous but I do it anyway. It depresses me. is it normal and how can I stop? I don't want to be this way.

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  • MochaMan
    13 years ago

    Hmm....
    I think I were you, I would be Jealous aswell.
    But maybe this is a trail from God himself, To see if prehaps you can pull through these tuff times. I dont know, I dont regularly hear back from him. But maybe you should try asking for some guidence?
    But everyone has tuff times in there life, some more then others and vis versa.

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  • poon_jabber
    9 years ago

    I'm sure not EVERYTHING is going perfect for him Nobody's life is perfect. He probably makes a nice little facade on facebook. He might be lying about trips and/or income too. He's probably just a fake little wanna-be bitch.

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  • duckmoopoo
    12 years ago

    Pretty normal. This is kind of a case of the grass is greener on the other side. You may not know everything. Maybe he hits his girlfriend, maybe he had to suck a penis to get that promotion. People tend to write highly of themselves on Facebook.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    then he is cocky and is natural for you to be jealous of him, as that's what he is trying to do

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    I reckon he broke up from you, right?

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    • Merlot
      13 years ago

      No actually. I broke up with him. I know I have no feelings for him whatsoever in that way. Like I said, I'm happily engaged. It's not a feeling of wanting him back. It's just plain jealousy. I don't hate that he's happy; I just hate that he has everything that I want from life.

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      • BoredGuy
        13 years ago

        I see. I can't see why you wouldn't be happy with his fortune, since you broke up with him. First you heartbreak him and then you are jealous he moved on and he is happy with his life? You are weird and mean.

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        • Merlot
          13 years ago

          No no no. I'm happy for him but at the same time, I'm jealous. Also, I didn't break his heart. It was kind of a mutual agreement. We broke up on somewhat good terms. I stopped talking to him though because whenever I do, all he does is tell me how well off he is and kind of rubs it in my face that he has more money and isn't struggling. I guess if he hadn't have done that, I wouldn't feel the way I do. In other words...if he were humble, I would be happy for him. I don't know. Maybe I'm making too big a deal over it. I don't obsess over it every day and it doesn't ruin my life or anything lol.

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago

    Sounds like your not over him. You would not feel anything if you didn't care.

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