Is it normal to be jealous? my bf lives with a girl he hooked up with.

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Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend (Jeff) for almost a year now and him and his brother (Tom) live together. Recently, Tom allowed his ex girlfriend (Stacy) to move in to their house (he dated her for almost 8 years and they've been broken up for about 2 years now; but they were an on and off kind of couple). Well, Tom is in love with Stacy, Stacy has a boyfriend that lives out of state and is not interested in Tom the same way he is in her; she just wants a free place to live, and to top it all off Jeff and Stacy have had sex a few times about three years ago..... So yeah. My boyfriend is currently living in a household with some chick he has banged. Tom does not know that Stacy and Jeff have had sex and would be crushed to find out. I know it was a while ago, but i still feel like she can be very flirtatious.. I don't know where to turn or how to handle this situation.. She goes in Jeff's bathroom and gets his dirty towels and wash rags and washes them, along with going in his room and taking his dirty laundry and washing them as well. I don't want to ask my friends or family for advice because i really don't want them knowing my business. Me and Jeff are great, we've talked about marriage and i really feel like he is the one. He treats me like a princess and i do trust him. I just don't feel comfortable with him living under the same roof as this girl he has banged before. Advice, please.

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    What kind of man sleeps with his brother's girlfriend???

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You think Stacys bad? You should watch out for Stacys mom, she's got it goin' on.

    But wtf your bf slept with his brothers gf? Fucking tool. And your jealousy is normal

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    • lolxamilli
      11 years ago

      Lol actually Stacy's mom is about 300 pounds. She sure does got it goin' on lol idk where Stacy got her looks from but it wasn't her mom!

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      • ccjigsaw
        11 years ago

        But that's not what the song said????

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  • Narcs
    11 years ago

    Your BF and this girl screwed 3 years ago..
    Your BF's brother and this girl split up 2 years ago after an (almost) 8 year long relationship..

    This dude stepped on his brother, who I'm guessing he is also quite close to, seeing as they live with each other? Who is to say he isn't screwing you over as well?

    I think he boned her. Ballsdeep.

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    • lolxamilli
      11 years ago

      They were on and off. When Jeff and Stacy had sex- Tom and Stacy weren't together. Also at this time Tom and Jeff didn't have a good relationship. With that said; Jeff still shouldn't have done it.

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      • Narcs
        11 years ago

        Maybe you should fuck his brother. It works as payback for when your BF boned Stacy and also payback from the brothers side for the knife in the back he received 3 years ago.

        Screw it, get back in touch with Stacy and just have a full on orgy!

        Pics pls.

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        • Justsomejerk
          11 years ago

          Solid advice.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Yeah, it's completely normal to feel jealous. Contrary to what many might tell you, we don't always fully get over someone we've had a relationship with. But if you trust him and he treats you right, then just express your concerns to him and let go of it. If he is trustworthy and you're happy than there need not be an issue.

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    • lolxamilli
      11 years ago

      Thank you(:

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. I heard from word of mouth that my bf banged his brother's gf a while back, while we were "off". Though he says it never happened, i really believe it did. And she lived with them for a few years. I liked her as a person, but i just got these really odd vibes around the two of them together. She acted like a bitch in heat around him, flashing flirtatious smiles and lying on the floor with her boobs hanging out, pick-flirting and such, and trying her hardest not to give us a moment to ourselves, talking about their fun past. It didn't help that my bf rarely seen me when she lived there. His bro is a jackass, so i could certainly see her falling for my bf. And i'm sure my bf enjoyed her flirting, as she is very pretty. It may have very well been innocent, but to this day i go into a furious rage thinking of what may have happened between them. I'm sure he would never cheat on me, or betray his brother, but he still considers her his friend though they no longer communicate and takes up for her when i tell him how i feel about it. I know i should let this go, what's past is past, but it drives me crazy knowing she got all his attention which should have been mine.

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    • lolxamilli
      11 years ago

      She's the same way!!!! Should I feel okay about her living there? Sometimes I wish Jeff would move out but I don't want to force him. Would that be wrong of me to ask him to leave? Would I be overreacting? Or should I just let it be?

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        While I wouldn't make a big deal if they were just living together (I'm in an open relationship so we do sorta have different rules..) the fact that she's being a bitch about it is more than enough reason to be pissed off.

        Sounds like she's looking for some validation because for whatever reason she's threatened by you and trying to make herself seem "better".

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    It's normal that you feel so..No past relationship is completely over n if at some time you have a fight with your bf may be the old flame burns on again?
    But honestly i guess if he loves you two can talk abt it..A healthy conversation will surely help..

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  • iamjustmeokay
    11 years ago

    I wouldn't evenness dating him.because I as well would be pissed and jealous.

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  • dedlit
    11 years ago

    The thing with these kind of questions is, that you can only get advice and not an answer.

    Here is mine: Most couples break up over such a thing because they never discussed it until the point came when accuses just come out, mostly without the other person knowing why and from where they come. The other person goes defensiv etc.

    It's a recipe for disaster!

    Talk to him, without accusation. (I guess he was the one who told you the whole story with the three of them, that is a big show of trust on his side, still: TALK TO HIM!!!)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    The brothers also have sex with each other.

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Yeah, definitely not a good idea for your bf to live with a girl he hooked up with.

    ...but...
    As a lazy guy, I'd probably let a female friend that I'm not interested in live with me if she did my cleaning and laundry.

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  • Unimportant
    11 years ago

    That Stacy sounds like my kind of girl.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Why don't you and jeff move in together? Just the two of you.

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    • lolxamilli
      11 years ago

      We've been talking about marriage and moving in together. We plan on doing that (: but until that time comes, I'm still uncomfortable with his living situation :/

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Stacy sounds like a hoe.. watch out. YOur boyfriend could be the best guy ever, but it's a very odd situation.

    I lived in a house where the main signer managed a store, there was a girl who worked under his management living with us too. and she fucked him because.. well, she was a skank and sometimes she got away without paying rent on time. The thing is she also slept with another roommate, and at some point she started flirting with me. Which was very disgusting. So, maybe I'm wrong, but I hate that type of girls.

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