Is it normal to be jealous like this?

I feel like I'm a bad person or something. I have applied to over 20 jobs, and got called into an interview once, but still have not got a single one. Meanwhile, my fiance gets a job the first time he applies, as did my two cousins their first. I... CAN'T STAND IT! I should be happy about their successes, but once I got the news from my fiance today, he could tell I was feeling bitter about it, and not pleased in the least. I feel like a total bitch but I feel as if I'm always at the short end of the stick, everyone around me gets lucky and me... nothing. Ever. Is it normal, or am I a bitch...?

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Based on 53 votes (43 yes)
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  • St.Clair59

    I know exactly how you feel. It seems everybody else can get a job like it's the easiest thing ever but I can't.

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  • I know how you feel...I'm the only one of my friends without a job. I would say I feel like an underachiever, but in reality I think I got better grades than all of them in school...HOWEVER, I probably can't write a proper resume to save my life. :c

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  • koolgal22

    All I can say is rection and the economy are pulling u down chin up be strong ma friend

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  • dappled

    Don't take it personally. Having a chip on your shoulder can come across even on a CV. I often get called on as a CV reader where there have been multiple hundred applications for a job, because I'm quick, accurate, thorough, and the only person in history who professes to enjoy it.

    One man wrote his reasons for leaving each job he'd had and for one, he said "Having contracted every single variant of the common cold, while in this job, I felt there was nothing left to achieve". In his mind, he was being ironic, funny, and very English. All the things people are supposed to like. I wonder how he'd have felt to know he was immediately placed on the "No" pile by someone twenty five years younger than him.

    He might have thought I was too young and stupid to understand how great he is. But I understood exactly what he meant. I also understood his sickness record wasn't great and that he approached things negatively; that he was, quite probably, quite a negative person and that this would have an impact on the team he'd end up in (whose balance was already fragile).

    In short, be very careful how you write your CV, because the same kind of sentiments came across in your post. I'm not criticising you, by the way. I'm trying to be constructive.

    Oh, and don't give up. Times are hard and it's more difficult to get a job now than it was ten years ago.

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