Is it normal to be jealous about dumb things?

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My boyfriend is an avid hunter/fisherman and works at a sporting goods store. I am not into that kind of stuff at all. Im more of a girly girl. We've been together almost two years and it never really made me insecure because he used to be so crazy about me..now that's faded to some extent, and some things have been bothering me. I'm worried that him working in this store with all these girls that are into the same things as him is going to make him want to be with someone who has more in common with him. I even caught him texting one of his friends about a girl at work saying she's really flirty and he has "naughty thoughts" about her. I don't know where to draw the line on things like this. When is it okay to be jealous. I'm not stupid. I know he flirts with the girls at his work, and lately they have all been adding him on Facebook. I don't know if it's petty jealousy or what but its been making me very insecure and uncomfortable lately. I try to talk to him about it but I just end up blowing up and causing a war. I need some advice.

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  • Lasher
    12 years ago

    Hes having naughty thoughts about another girl?? Yes its time to be jealous! First decide if you REALLY want to be with him. Be honest with yourself about the relationship, dont delude yourself about anything. Look at his character, does he deserve you? If answer is yes then you may have to start playing a little game with him. GEt your power back by becoming more independant from him. Hang out with ppl who have similar interests to you. Be happy, fake it if you have to, and do not nag him. Pay attention to your appearance and makes changes so you feel sexy again. If you pursue him then you are devaluing yourself. The moment you become "hard to get" or thought of as sexy or attractive to other men then you will get his attention back.

    Please remember, you may or may not get him back. Maybe it would be far better that you break up...who knows what life has in store for you. The most important thing is to regain your OWN happiness, power and independance whatever happens.

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  • dietcoke
    12 years ago

    perhaps give your relationship a challenge:

    leave him and see how he responses!

    if he chases you back he's yours, if he doesn't, get yourself a new man!

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  • emotionalwreck4ever
    12 years ago

    i think yuu should make him quit and tell him to work with all guys lol, my bf works with guys only so im happy i dont have to deal with worrying all the time -___-

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  • flowers123
    12 years ago

    I think u need to have a long talk with him and tell him how ur feeling and what's on ur mind and see if he really is into these other girls or if he is just being a typical man !

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  • Dulse.
    12 years ago

    I think you should ask him if he really wants to be with you. If he won't listen to you after you've tried to explain how you feel, then I guess you'd just have to respect his decision and find someone who is a better match.

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