Is it normal to be jealous?

I'm really insecure. And I find myself constantly comparing myself to other females. Thinking,"Oh, i wish i had nice hair like hers." Or, "She has so many friends, but i don't." I feel a humongous rage of jealousy and hatred. I feel so bad about it too. I know i should appreciate what i have. Sometimes i feel that'd if i died, I'd reincarnate. To a body that I'd be satisfied with. Sometimes i think about it so much that i want to put that theory to the test. Sometimes i feel 90.5% sure that I'd receive a beautiful body. I dont mean to sound like a whiny attention seeker, but im kind of concerned and i dont know how to deal with my self-esteem issues and i dont know how to feel confident about myself.

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  • pacinoharmon

    I used to get like this and quite honestly I regret wasting so much negative energy. You will find that you are happier when you don't compare yourself to others. I'm sure you're pretty, and people who think appearance is more important than personality are shallow anyway.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    I bet you're beautiful. I have found very few people who I would deem hopelessly ugly. If you feel pretty you will look pretty to yourself and others. What could make you feel pretty... sexy panties? Nude photographs? Helping people? Working out? a massage? It can be something public or private, just a little confidence booster that makes you feel more positive about yourself. I think you just need to pamper yourself a little and take time to look at yourself in the mirror and accept your body for what it is. You won't always like it, but the more you give yourself compliments the better you will feel about your looks and yourself in general.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    It's normal. Although less common for men I'm also jealous of so called tall, dark, handsome men with a full head of black hair as those catch more female attention, and also I'm into the female version of that (black haired olive skinned girls) and those seem to stick to their kind the most.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Yes it is but it doesn't help.

    You are only human after all.

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  • Anime7

    I've had thoughts like these before, hell I still think about. I want to be encased in a hotter body to be honest with you. Sure I could work out, but I'm kind of lazy and even then I'd still have the same face. But the thing is though, I know I'm handsome, I'm just not thin.

    I think that if you only focus on the negative things about yourself then you'll only see the bad things. Try focusing on the good things about yourself. This may sound cheesy but it worked for me; look in the mirror. Don't immediately see yourself as a bad person, give yourself a break not even Kate Upton is perfect. But try giving yourself a compliment. Just do it like once a day. Don't be so hard on yourself; just say something positive like "hmm... my hair looks pretty good today." Or "hey I have nice boobs." Just give yourself a compliment, try surrounding yourself in positivity.

    If your compare yourself to other people then you're only getting to get even more frustrated. Let's be honest, if we all compared ourselves to Einstein then we'd all be idiots. So you should really only focus on yourself. By the end of the journey you might even realize that you're not even as ugly as you think.

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  • MuseIsAwesome

    Thank you, everyone. You guys did make me feel a bit better. I mean, im atleast average. Its just that i got picked on for being tall, and being mixed(black and white). Not only that but there having been several cases where I've been mocked about the way i speak,"Properly" as they'd say. Im in highschool by the way. I dont use slang. When i talk, people would mock me and laugh. It's humiliating. And, i got picked on because i have so much hair, and it's not very tame. About 60% if not more of the girls have basically no hair, and they all wear weave. Since it's not their real hair, of course it'll look better than mine. I feel very uncomfortable in public. People can be so rude. It's kind of scary

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    • myboyfriendsbitch

      It won't always be like that. High school kids are stupid. People made fun of me for choosing to not want to look like them and they were always fucking with my dyed black hair (which was pretty, but they still made fun of it). They'd be like "Is that witch's hair? derrr..) and frizz it up and touch it. I think one girl I didn't know even cut a piece of my hair off in class. Fuckin haters. The older you get the less things like this will happen. Those kids are just projecting their own insecurities.

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      • MuseIsAwesome

        I also dyed my hair black too a few years back, since my natural hair is brown. I kinda miss having brown hair. And I hang out with nice people, but i feel like i don't belong. I dont like being tall and having curly hair. I feel like a freak cause I tower over them by atleast a foot. I'm 5'9". They get called cute on a daily basis by everyone. I get called out for being tall.

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