Is it normal to be irritated by people yet want a strong friendship?

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I'm the furthest thing from suicidal. I have good parents, an amazing boyfriend, but I don't really have anyone I consider a close friend. Like, someone I could tell anything to and trusting that they won't judge me or spread it all around the school, someone that I can relate to. I see my boyfriend as a best friend, but he has friends of his own, and when he goes to hang out with them, I feel all alone. I talk to people, yeah, but I don't do it often (willingly) because some of the things they do agitate me easily. Plus, I'm not compatible with many people. I feel so different from everyone else. I don't really know who I am. I know what I'm going to do after I graduate high school (be a veterinarian), but I don't know if grades ranging in 80-95 would be good enough to get a scholarship. Besides, I don't exactly care about people, like I don't have very much sympathy in other people. I save my sympathy for the big things (i.e. a loved one dying, parents divorcing), but for the stupid things (i.e. getting your phone taken, your crush not liking you back), I couldn't care less. However, I have a longing for someone other than my boyfriend to hang out with in my spare time.
Long story short: People irritate the hell out of me, yet I want a close friend that I can relate to. Is this normal or is it not? Please leave helpful advice, opinions, etc. and tell me what you think. (:

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  • pisspotpeehole
    11 years ago

    Sure! Look at Jerry Seinfeld and his shithead friend George. George irritated the fuck out of Jerry all the damn time, and yet Jerry wanted to be friends with George. Kinda like the hot chick wants the fat chick around so she can look good standing next to her. You know who wants the fat chick around even more? The not-quite-hot chick! Which Jerry kinda was, in a non-chick way.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Haha, good luck finding that in high school! If you are looking for people your age who are mature and have their priorities straight then as it stands, you're probably S.O.L.!

    It's normal, though. I can't stand most of my acquentences, they all either procreate mindlessly (OMG I AM HAVIN ANOTHR BABBY) without so much as a high school diploma to their names (HIGH SCOL WAS SO DRAMA), sit around either working a dead end job or living off of their parents money getting piercings and tattoos every other month complaining about how everyone else is sheep, they are unique individuals and they don't want to sell their individuality for money and how they are true intellectuals, depressives that literally do nothing but whine and complain, people who constantly complain about "OMG DA DRAMA" in their lives but continue living their lives in that manner even though they are supposably miserable and "tird of da drama" OR people like me that have just barely enough spare time to eat and shower, let alone have a social life.

    I have a few good friends that break that mold but I most certainly did not find them in high school. Just wait until you graduate or look for friends outside of high school because you probably aren't going to find quality stock in a building full of people who are only there because the law/their parents require them to be.

    Granted, I'd like to add that from my experience in the work place and in college, you're going to find dumbasses everywhere you go. The severity of the stock may depend on the location but as a general rule, it's best to just be diplomatic to all of the above until you meet someone that is worthwhile. Often, irresponsible people have at least one responsible and sane friend. Just sucks that sometimes you have to sift through shit to find gold. Don't be angry at people that don't seem quite right. They don't realize it themselves, I'd imagine that makes their lives frustrating.

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  • MommaUsagi
    11 years ago

    It gets easier once you are out of high school. High school in an odd environment. When you are out of high school, you will be able to meet people who share your interests and are much more relatable.

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    • BloodAndFire
      11 years ago

      I hope so.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Well, I don't know if it's normal but I'm the same way. I'm a misanthrope and people as a whole just bother me. However, I have amazing friends and I know that you could have some as well. I suggest just going to places that you like and try hitting up some conversations with strangers.

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    • BloodAndFire
      11 years ago

      Yeah, but I'm afraid of talking to people. I just feel like they'd judge me immediately because that's what most people do nowadays.

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      • Anime7
        11 years ago

        I will agree with you that most people are extremely judgmental nowadays. However, not everyone. I would call myself weird, yet I talk to people in class knowing that they'll probably see me as just that. I've actually made a good friend just from being myself. Not everyone you meet is going to judge you as harshly as you judge yourself. Talking to people may be scary but you might be surprised of how accepting some people can be, I know I was.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          I'm not trying to be an asshole, but I think people are LESS judgmental nowadays, considering we have graduated from enslavement, the burning of women whom we consider to be witches, waging massive bloody holy wars against people who did not share our religion, killing and scalping Native Americans and raping their wives and leaving the poor on the streets to starve to death and die.

          Hell, even more recent history suggests that we have gotten better as a society. We've recently graduated past lynching black people, gay people and other minorities for fun within organized groups. Now if a person is lynched it's a national controversy. People are still judgmental, but considering that, 30-40 years ago the color of your skin would have inhibited you from walking into a bar or being a single mother would have effectively outcasted you from society, I'd say we've come a pretty long way.

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          • Anime7
            11 years ago

            I'm not saying that we haven't come a long way. I'm saying that the individual is judgmental. I'm assuming the OP is in her late teens or early 20s. When we mature we become more tolerant of others. However, young people nowadays can be very judgmental. As a society we have progressed but there are still many individuals who really only like to be around people like them.

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            • NeuroNeptunian
              11 years ago

              You're right but that is nothing new. We're progressing towards a more socially ethical society so when we have to deal with people that are still lagging in a few quarters it's just such a waste of energy. Education has become so prevalent that many of us now know that there are other options besides negativity and fighting those you don't like, but those that have not gotten the grasp of that are twice as annoying any anyone with more than a couple of brain cells =/ We're going through a period of ethical evolution, it'll take a while.

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