Is it normal to be into someone so soon after leaving a relationship
First, a back story: I had a boyfriend for 3 years. It never should have lasted that long. I ended up leaving him after a little over 2 years. I broke up with him the "right" way. I told him all the feelings I had towards our relationship and how I lost that lovin' feeling. (I'm no cheater and I wouldn't put him through the torment of starting fights until he hated me.) We were apart for over 3 months and I ended up getting back with him because I wanted to believe the lies and promises. Another 3 months we had a drunken scream out and broke up for the night. We were on a 4 day vacation so we ended up making up because the friends with us convinced us to do it do it.
After coming back it didn't feel right again and I became depressed. For a moment I had hoped and thought a house might fix things and we began considering this. But I realized I was just making excuses for him. I made excuses for him through out our relationship. Next I'd be saying Marriage would fix things, then kids. Then we would have a lot more to lose than each other, and I'd probably die a bitter old woman regretting every decision I'd ever made.
I finally broke up with him again(a stressful, emotionally exhausting task) two months ago(we only lasted 3 more months after the vacation).
I'm feeling over it and we are getting separate apartments this month. This past year only 3 months were good between us and the rest felt like a long drawn out break up that never seemed to have end. I feel great now!(He is still very upset about the whole thing)
My PROBLEM is I like another guy already. I've known him almost 5 years. I had a crush on him early on, but he had a girlfriend. I ended up in a job transfer for a few years and met my now EX. I eventually transferred back but my loyalties blocked any feelings I had in the past for him because I was in love with my EX and happy.
In breaking up the first time, this other guy began stopping in to see me more and I felt good vibes that he liked me more than a friend(I got this on feeling and off in knowing him, but it was stronger then). He stopped coming in everyday(became once a week or less) when I got back with my ex and we spoke less(part my fault because I thought it was best).
Now I'm single and he's single and I feel like I don't want to miss the chance. He is everything I want in a man, different from my ex in many ways. He is smart, athletic, caring, family oriented. A real old fashioned charmer. He has motivation, a sense of responsibility, and is a good guy all around. As a plus, I find him super attractive.
I feel a connection with him I always looked for in my ex. It feels like Love, while I felt like a friend that kissed and cuddled and maybe had sex twice a month with my EX(If I was lucky. :( ).
When I see this other guy my heart feels like it's going to explode and I'm going to catch fire and pass out. And as terrible as it sounds and sometimes feels, I can't wait for it to happen again. I never felt that way with my EX. I want to wait a couple months more before trying to go for him, but I'm scared that it's not the right thing to do(considering my EX isn't over me).
Is it okay to try to move on after 4 months if I'm ready? Is it normal?
(Sorry, sorry, sorry! Long post.)