Is it normal to be insecure about your girlfriend? (read more)

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When my girlfriend has friends over, and I don't know about it, I get pretty insecure. The problem is, I feel intrusive asking who they are and what they did. She's allowed to have a life outside of me.

Also the same thing when we're skyping together and she receives a call from a guy on her mobile/cell phone, then mutes herself. I always end the call and just tell her to call me back when they've finished. Again, I always feel intrusive and a little insecure asking who it was, what they wanted etc.

I know she has straight, male friends but I'm fairly sure she wouldn't cheat on me (what goes through my head with the former).

I'm currently writing this while she's chatting to a guy on the phone (I've managed to write this whole thing while she's been on the phone).

Thanks for your time.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    If you are curious, just ask.

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    • That_Nail_Bloke
      9 years ago

      I don't want to be intrusive, I'm afraid

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      • modernism
        9 years ago

        She's your girlfriend. You don't have the right to cut her off from certain people, but you do have the common, basic right of asking a question.

        Just ask it lightly. Like, when she gets off the phone, just be like "So, who was that?"

        Even if you do happen to come off intrusive, the fact that she chose to give the time to someone else over you is a little... ehh... So, I wouldn't really worry about how you sound.

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        • Nokiot9
          9 years ago

          I disagree. Yeah u can't make her do anything and shouldn't try to, but she shouldnt keep friends around that make u uncomfortable if she really cares about ur feelings. Alsokkeep in mind that she is her own person. She's gonna have her own friends. And trust has to be built. Not just given.

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  • golden_showers
    9 years ago

    you sound like a real decent guy. some guys would not be cool with that. just make sure she's not being unfaithful and if so then find a girl as nice as you.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    You are not intrusive for asking. I have issues with jealousy and I at LEAST want to know who the girls are that's a part of my boyfriends life.

    It's sort of normal to both have your own things going on if you spend a lot of time together-But your partner should always be top-priority unless it's an immediate issue going on with a friend of theirs.

    In my opinion you seem like a nice and polite guy- Don't get taken for granted.

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    • regisphilbin
      8 years ago

      this

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    What do you feel like you deserve?

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    Why do you Skype, is it long distance. If so chances are she is getting sex from one or multiples guys. People have needs you know.

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  • meow:3
    9 years ago

    my partner and i tell each other everything, i don't know about other couples, but i always thought that people in close relationships tell each other whats going on.

    either shes a flirt with everyone, or really social (that's best case scenario)...tbh, i think most people would be concerned in this situation.

    I suggest trying to open up communication more

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    She's obviously cheating on you. You're not important enough to her to be priority number one in her life

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    • redhornet
      9 years ago

      Because you have to have no interrupted contact with your significant other 100% of the time when you are in each other's presence or it's not 100% commitment. Right.

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