Is it normal to be insecure about my music tastes?

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You would think that I would proud of my music tastes. I like many music genres: acoustic, classic rock, new wave pop, classical music, reggae, folk, indie, heavy metal, 60s pop, jazz, progressive rock, ska, easy listening, world music, video game music, elevator music and more.

But recently I’ve become very insecure about my music tastes. I think I’m too eclectic to call myself a music fan, mainly because I just can’t fit into anywhere in music. Nowhere at all.

For example, if I’m speaking to a major metalhead and I bring up, let’s say, the Everly Brothers, who are folk pop, the metalhead will instantly think I’m against metal because I also enjoy folk. I’ve come to know metalheads. More often than not they hate the idea of a fellow metal fan “betraying” metal by listening to other music types. Rest assured I am not a metalhead.

Likewise, if I’m speaking to a bunch of Will Young fans (yes, I like Will Young too, he’s a great singer-songwriter) and I bring up Iron Maiden, they’re all going to instantly assume I’m a Satan-worshipping, fight-starting metalhead, which I am not, because unlike metalheads I like other genres. I listen to metal because it is music, not because it’s a satanic religion (which it really isn’t, that’s just the metalheads trying to look cool). Plus, proper satanic metal like black and death metal just absolutely disgusts me. Nobody can see this.

There are also other silly conflicts in music as well: conflicts between fans of progressive rock and fans of 80s pop, conflicts between fans of blues and fans of classical, and so on. I’m on almost everybody’s side. Even my own brother has criticised my music tastes as well. He’s mostly into indie, punk and disco, all of which I like but he says that I’m weird and selfish for liking so many genres, and now I think he may be right. I used to consider myself the king of music taste, but now I consider myself an oddball ex-teen somehow able to both enjoy a Chinese springtime ballad and the music from the Ratchet and Clank games.

Is it normal to be this insecure of my tastes in music? I feel as if my music tastes are caving in on me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I don't see the problem. You like a hell of a lot of music. How can that be bad?

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    If only everyone was open-minded enough to explore music other than that which they were pushed into liking by peer pressure. You have no need for insecurity here.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I am open-minded to music, but I'm insecure about not being able to be part of a particular music fandom because I like too much of it. I feel like an outcast.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    It sounds like you're either young and used to idiots or you really dunno how a lot of people are... Most people aren't that fanatical about their musical tastes

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  • emotoybunny
    12 years ago

    I am exactly like you. EXACTLY. So I would say.. we're both crazy.

    Haha, nah I'd say it's normal. When people ask me what my favourite genre of music is I honestly couldn't tell them, I love too many. But if I say one particular genre, they will assume that's the only music I listen to.

    I'm glad you're as open-minded as me, I hate it when people become almost obsessed with one genre of music, and suddenly they "hate" every other kind of music. Music gets very boring when it's the same genre all the time.

    I wouldn't get too insecure about it, most people don't mind you liking other music, just teenage idiots feel very.. passionate about their music tastes. Not saying all teens are idiots!! Just most of them. Boys especially.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Like whatever kind of music you want. I like a variety. :)

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  • evildoctorporkchop
    12 years ago

    I know exactly what you mean, people seem to think it's so weird to like more than one genre of music and there's so much stigma surrounding certain music. I mean seriously? It's just music, and everyone's different. People need to grow up and accept this.
    I like lots of different rock, but I also listen to rave/dance, drum n bass, a bit of dubstep, rap, video game music, film soundtrack, some classical, heavy metal (not the satanic death metal crap, I mean older metal) and probably loads more that I can't even think of.
    I can be very defensive about music, I won't let anyone touch my ipod. But at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter what other people think. YOU enjoy YOUR music, so what's the problem? It show's you're a mature, open-minded individual and a true music fan.

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    I had a friend that would joke I had the best taste in music and the worst taste in music. Good music never grows old. Don't worry about it.

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  • steph678
    12 years ago

    You have a beautiful taste in music! Enjoy it, it makes you interesting!

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  • la_la_la_la
    12 years ago

    Hiya,

    Friends of mine said that my taste in music was so bad even a burglar would leave it behind.

    In a favourite film of mine, the main character devotes his entire life to a rock band, then he joins them, only to find out he doesn't like them half as much as he thought he did.

    Unless you're actually going to meet up with other fans at concerts I wouldn't advise being part of a website for a band or anything – people can be a bit competitive & blow things out of proportion.

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  • Oli
    12 years ago

    You're stereotyping people who like only a certain genre. Quit be so damn narrow-minded and actually look at people.

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  • trytoforgetthis
    12 years ago

    Personally, I think it's normal...?
    Same insecurity happens on my part to where I usually just end up passing the iPooood to someone else so they can choose something they like (nothing on my iPoooood I don't like, win/win).
    I relate to my music very closely though and when someone else doesn't like it, the insecurity slowly creeps in...
    O_O

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    Nice your brother likes punk!

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